Victoria | Children's Book Author & Psychologist

Animal rescue volunteer.
Author of interactive children's quest-books for preteens.
Family & Emigration psychologіst

[Victoria | Children's Book Author & Psychologist @pobedabedu]

Moms of girls 9-12, do you recognize this? Yesterday she was your sunshine.
You ask “How are you?” — and she slams the door. You want to help… but she says “Leave me alone!” You’re not doing anything wrong.
This age is emotionally intense.
A thread on how to reach her ↓

[Victoria | Children's Book Author & Psychologist @pobedabedu]

Beautiful morning in the Еasy Horse Care Rescue Centre :)

[Victoria | Children's Book Author & Psychologist @pobedabedu]

As a way to balance freedom and discipline, I like using the “Yes, But, And” method.
For example:
Yes, I understand that math problems feel hard for you.
But math is useful in everyday life.
And now, let’s solve three problems together, and then do something you enjoy.:)

[Victoria | Children's Book Author & Psychologist @pobedabedu]

"I was struck by this phrase: Only Women and their Children live on this Earth."

[Victoria | Children's Book Author & Psychologist @pobedabedu]

The same substance can heal or harm — it all depends on the dose. This principle works in parenting exactly the same way. As a psychologist and children’s book author, I think about this balance every day. I’d love to hear your thoughts 👇

[Victoria | Children's Book Author & Psychologist @pobedabedu]

@sheryl_gould A year ago, I met an octopus at a marine rescue center — and we kept meeting, quietly building a connection.

I think: parenting is like an octopus’s tentacles — to support, protect, hold, and let go at once. Strength lies not in control, but in flexibility and being there.

[Victoria | Children's Book Author & Psychologist @pobedabedu]

A year ago, I met an unusual friend—an octopus. We saw each at a marine rescue center.
Parenting, I’ve realized, is a lot like an octopus’s tentacles: to support, protect, hold on, and let go—all at once. True strength isn’t control. It’s flexibility and presence.

[Victoria | Children's Book Author & Psychologist @pobedabedu]

@clharrington024 I see value in flexible, ability-based learning. Still, ability grouping raises questions about inclusion and social development. The challenge is ensuring flexibility doesn’t come at the cost of students’ sense of belonging and support.

[Victoria | Children's Book Author & Psychologist @pobedabedu]

@kirstencobabe It’s important for us to give children the ability to reach for the skies, while still standing firmly on the ground.

[Victoria | Children's Book Author & Psychologist @pobedabedu]

There are no “bad” emotions.
Anger, sadness, joy, hurt—they’re like colored pencils in a box.

The most important thing is to learn how to draw bright, honest pictures of your feelings—and share them with the people.

Find more here
https://t.co/nTiQS0X5P4

[Victoria | Children's Book Author & Psychologist @pobedabedu]

Moms of girls 9-12, do you recognize this? Yesterday she was your sunshine.
You ask “How are you?” — and she slams the door. You want to help… but she says “Leave me alone!” You’re not doing anything wrong.
This age is emotionally intense.
A thread on how to reach her ↓

[Victoria | Children's Book Author & Psychologist @pobedabedu]

Mostly C
Your superpower is “The Deep Lake.”
You feel things deeply and keep them inside.
But it can be hard for others to guess what’s going on beneath the surface.

Start with a tiny step: when you need help, say a simple sentence: Can you help me?
Continued below.

[Victoria | Children's Book Author & Psychologist @pobedabedu]

Donkeys aren’t stubborn. They’re just deeply committed to their own opinions :)