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God ordained marriage, yes.
But not everyone will or should get married.
What fuels marriage is money.
And it's largely hinged on the man.
If the man that you are dating right now is not showing you any true potential to provide financially in marriage, please do not get married to him.
As a woman, you'd suffer in that marriage if you get married to a lazy man.
Or if you get married to a man that is just struggling to get by.
And you won't be able to function properly as either a mother or a wife.
The only way that you'd be able to function properly, is if your husband takes away the burden of provision from you.
Your heart would be heavy if you heard the cries of hunger from your children.
And your husband would be there, doing nothing about it.
The reason I am saying this is because a lot of wives and mothers are living in regret. They constantly call for financial help from family and friends so that they can feed their children.
But they have husbands.
Yesterday, I posted a video of a man and his wife publicly embarrassing themselves.
The wife was screaming that she pays the school fees, she feeds the kids, she does this and that, and her husband was shamelessly standing there, replying to her.
If you watched the video to the end, you would have heard the man wishing that his wife would die before him.
That is why I keep telling you women about the dangers of enabling a man, or getting married to a man who hasn't proven to you that he's willing or capable of stepping into that role as a father and husband.
He resents his wife, but he's eating her food.
He takes his wife's money, but he wishes her dead.
His wife is paying the school fees for the kids, but he's angry and wishes to ruin the business that provides her the money to do those things.
Those ones are the ones that decided to wash their dirty linens in the public.
There are thousands of homes like that.
And I am pretty sure that some of you married women reading this are experiencing same.
A man doesn't have to be rich before he marries a wife, but he must be ready to take up the financial responsibilities of his household.
That is how he must start.
He must do this with kindness & sacrifice, and with God on his side.
The wife must see that he has been able to show that he's the head of the home.
Now, this is where I want to land.
There are married men who have maintained this role for many years in their marriage, until things became tough financially.
That's life and it happens. And when this happens, it affords the man the opportunity to see who he is truly married to.
Would his wife change in her behavior towards him because she's genuinely concerned about him, or would she change because she is no longer interested in the marriage?
Will she step into his role temporarily as a support, or would she abandon him to his fate?
Whichever one it is, your prayer as a man is that God may continue to show you mercy and keep you in good health so that you'll continue to be the provider as much as you can.
Because once money is lacking, that marriage will never be the same.
Even if you're married to a good wife.
AJD.
So, this is what I would say.
I'll ignore the hypocrisy of men but still advice them.
Even if you meet a lady as a virgin, & then you deflower her.
Please do not say that because you deflowered her, then you must marry her if she's not the type of wife that you need.
If you deflower her and it turns out that she's a good choice for you, please do all you can to marry her.
That's exactly what I did.
Do not let taking a woman's virginity to guilt trip you, as long as you did not promise her marriage before you deflowered her.
You approached her like every other young man would approach a young lady.
You later discovered that she was a virgin. You were in a relationship with her after you have deflowered her, and she cheated on you.
Please move on from that relationship.
You discovered that she's very disrespectful and has a terrible upbringing & a mother whose character you are not pleased with.
Please move on from that relationship.
She cannot cook, clean or she's lazy. And you have tried to caution her but she feels because she gave you her virginity, then she has done all that is needed.
Please move on from that relationship.
And many other things that you consider to be a red flag for you.
Let me tell you.
When it comes to choosing a wife or a husband, it goes far beyond sentiments, pity, or self-guilt..
On the flip side, some of you ladies are in a toxic relationship because you don't want to increase your body counts.
He deflowered you and so what?
If he's not behaving like a man that you'd wish to be your husband and father of your children, do not remain in that relationship simply because he deflowered you.
And do not let him have that power over you. If he's not treating you right, please do not waste your time in that relationship.
What is important is that you're feminine, you have shame and you know what it means to have a family that is led by a kind and focused man.
Not a liar and a narcissist.
I hope you understand me.
End.
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