bugima, sister of guanyinma

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[bugima, sister of guanyinma @potaling]

the most fucking slow burn romance I've ever experienced

[✧˖ @colditioner]

“when i choose to see the good side of things, i'm not being naive. it is strategic and necessary. it's how I've learned to survive through everything”

[Vacha @TVachaW]

One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is to commit - solemnly and sincerely - to *always* loving yourself.

At all times and under all circumstances.

To treat that commitment like a wedding vow, with the same seriousness you’d give to an important promise you’ve made to a lover.

To love yourself when you’re lazy, when you’re weak, and when you fall pray to your most frustrating vices and compulsions.

To love yourself when you are envious, when you are scared, and when you feel like a failure.

To make this promise doesn’t mean that you will never falter or flail in fulfilling it.

This is the paradox of self-love: to be utterly committed to loving yourself and utterly committed to forgiving yourself when you fail to do so.

But just making that commitment in itself is powerful.

Not just to hope to love yourself, or to believe that loving yourself would be a good thing or to love yourself when you behave in ways you deem lovable.

But to commit, to promise, to vow to love yourself, unconditionally at your worst and weakest and most ugly.

I think many people worry that if they give themselves unconditional love, then they will lose the motivation to grow or address behaviours that don’t align with their highest values.

But I don’t find this to be the case at all.

I believe most of our unaligned behaviours are grounded in shame and self-hatred, not love.

Love is an energizing, illuminating and healing force.

My experience is that all our apparent flaws actually contain deep seeds of wisdom in them; this wisdom simply gets lost in the darkness of self-rejection.

In the light of love, these lost parts can see where they’re going again and naturally grow towards that light.

We sometimes think that we have to wait until we feel lovable to love ourselves.

But the truth is that when we love ourselves - truly and unconditionally - our heart reveals its infinitely lovable nature: here, now, already.

[Nikolaus Klaus @nikolausklaus17]

In horror movies the ghost is always a woman or a child because there's nothing a man can do as a ghost that he can't already do as a man

[Naida | Inscendence @OInscendence]

Addiction/substance abuse/compulsive behaviour is passion (suffering) for the Divine. A self-destructive person is ready to meet his/her god because the greatest obstacle (fear of pain/death) is already obliterated. It is the self-preserving that is stuck in their grave.

[real person™ @shesarealperson]

you have to deal with your shame before you can even think of imposing yourself on someone for the rest of their lives. shame makes you dishonest and untrustworthy

[Thendo Ralph @ThendoRalph]

I love when people are firm about how they identify themselves.

[햅쌀( ꈍᴗꈍ)🌾 @goodssalhapssal]

저는 운동신경 없어요 어릴 때 운동 안 배웠어요 힘이 없어요 하고 운동 시작하는 성인 여성분들 중에 한 석 달 지나면 갑자기 킬러 연습생처럼 각성하는 분들 있는데 혹시나 어릴 때 이거 했었냐 물어보면 10명 중 9명이 해봤다고 함.

[bugima, sister of guanyinma @potaling]

@fdbckfdfwd at least this one looks like singapore in the background

[anna @hard_boiledbabe]

In Kierkegaard's Works of Love, he explains that, much like how prayer is meant to change the heart of the one who prays, the task of love is not to find someone worthy of love, but to build the capacity for it in oneself

[شمس @shamsiiyahh]

living in a muslim country where they treat women like princess is so fun,the gas station wouldnt accept visa and i kid u not 3 men in the line stepped forward to pay for my stuff alhamdulilah

[bugima, sister of guanyinma @potaling]

I wanted to request a community note but apparently you need to sell your identity to elon for that so

[bugima, sister of guanyinma @potaling]

I'm crying bc there's no such singapore initiative, this looks nothing like singapore, and the background signboard looks like its written in chinese (signboards in sg are usually english) but it's actually AI slopwriting

[Dailymeow @Dailymeoww1]

🇸🇬 An interesting new initiative from Singapore; under a new policy introduced in certain areas, cats will now accompany security personnel on their nightly patrols. 🐱🚔

The goal is to both protect community cats and bring a little more warmth to the streets. From now on, the safety of Singapore's streets will be entrusted not only to security forces, but also to their four-legged partners. 😹

However, the system is already facing a few minor challenges. Some of the feline officers have reportedly been caught taking naps in the middle of their shifts, while others tend to disappear without notice and return whenever they feel like it. 😂

Even so, experts believe this may be one of the most adorable public safety projects in recent years. One thing is certain: this is a system that absolutely deserves to be adopted around the world. 🐱❤️🌍😹

[Farida 𖤣𖥧𓋼☀︎ᨒ𖤣𖥧𓋼𓍊⛰︎ ོ ⋆.ೃ࿔*:･ @lunefenduee]

huge respect for the history of Pride, but as an Arab lesbian i’ve never felt the need to perform it. there’s no blueprint to being queer and there is soo much power in just existing quietly. sending love to everyone celebrating but my vibe is quiet, grounded and just as valid!

[bugima, sister of guanyinma @potaling]

@edenhiyyih ya like is it winter

[Electra @Electrarythm]

Since many people been asking me how to break this cycle of obsessive self-awareness, I'm going to explain how to do it in the simplest and most effective way possible.

First of all, you do not change your mind by fighting with it.

Most people spend their lives arguing with their thoughts. They get a negative thought and immediately try to replace it with a positive one. They get anxious and try to calm themselves down. They get angry and try not to be angry.

But the mind is very good at fighting itself. It can argue forever.

The real change happens when you stop participating and start observing.

Suppose a thought appears:

"I'm behind in life."

Normally you instantly become the thought. Within seconds you're comparing yourself to other people, remembering mistakes, imagining a bad future, and feeling discouraged.

But what if you simply noticed it?

Noticed that a thought appeared.

Just like noticing a bird landing on a tree.

You don't have to agree with it.
You don't have to disagree with it.
You simply see it.

The same thing happens with emotions.

Imagine anger appears.

Most people immediately become the anger. They start replaying conversations. They justify it. They explain why they're right. They build an entire story around it.

Observation is different.

You notice:

"Interesting. Anger is here."

You feel the tension in your chest.

You notice the urge to argue.

You notice the mind trying to replay the event.

You notice the desire to be understood.

You watch all of it.

The important part is that you do not add anything.

You do not feed it.

You do not continue the story.

You simply watch.

This is why observation slowly weakens many mental patterns.

A thought survives because it keeps getting attention, agreement, resistance, fear, analysis, or reaction.

Observation gives it none of those.

It is like removing wood from a fire.

The fire may continue burning for a while, but eventually it becomes smaller.

The same happens with repetitive fears, resentments, insecurities, and compulsive thinking.

The goal is not to become emotionless.

The goal is not to suppress feelings.

The goal is to see clearly.

If sadness appears, observe sadness.

If fear appears, observe fear.

If jealousy appears, observe jealousy.

Feel it completely without immediately turning it into a story.

Most suffering comes from the story, not the feeling itself.

The feeling might last a few minutes.

The story can last ten years.

As this observation becomes stronger, something else becomes obvious.

Thoughts are changing all day long.

Emotions are changing all day long.

Moods are changing all day long.

But something is always there noticing the changes.

That noticing is what people call awareness.

It does not need to think.

It already sees.

And many of the insights people spend years searching for arrive the moment they stop arguing with what is happening and simply observe it directly.

[bugima, sister of guanyinma @potaling]

@entertheunseen would you mind mentioning what a bad episode after emdr looks like?

[ʇuᴉɐS📍 @saint_cloudy]

This is by far my all time favorite 😭😂😂

[lessence @kardiaphagy]

I have this one friend who's weirdly naturally enlightened. Completely nonreligious, but just, almost no stress. Very clear about some basic aspects of reality most people are deluded about. Today she said to me "I don't really struggle with anything", and I just believe her

[bugima, sister of guanyinma @potaling]

@pukimarx @prodigalgeek shanmugam need to get here and pofma their ass