Denzel Washington was right, always be thankful for the bad things in life. They open your eyes to see the good things you weren't paying attention to before.
BPD is actually a really sad mental health condition when you think about it. Like a person was put through so much trauma, abuse, neglect, instability, etc., that it literally altered the brain to make a person feel like they are never safe. I feel like my nervous system will always be broken.
My favorite line from Atomic Habits has been living in my head rent-free:
“It doesn’t make sense to continue wanting something if you’re not willing to do what it takes to get it. If you don’t want to live the lifestyle, then release yourself from the desire. To crave the result but not the process is to guarantee disappointment.”
Major cheat code for life: Master the art of the fresh start. From a bad morning. From a bad interaction. From a missed workout. From a poor decision. The goal isn't to avoid the fall. It's to shorten the time between the fall and the reset. Fast recovery compounds.