This post is for Indian parents. And for future Indian parents. Stop building houses for your son and daughter. You are solving the wrong problem.
Stop spending your entire life savings building a โfamily homeโ thinking your children will return and live there one day. It sounds emotional. But the reality is very different.
I realized this when I recently visited my Nana jiโs house.
That house was built with decades of savings. A lot of sacrifices. The intention was simple - Build a home for the next generation. Just like most Indian families do.
They studied well. Built careers. Moved to bigger cities. One even moved to the US. Life upgraded for them. Opportunities pulled them elsewhere. And slowly the house that once held dreams now sits quietly with no one to light a lamp in the evening.
Locked. Almost abandoned.
Indian parents are solving the wrong problem. You want your son and daughter to grow, earn more, live bigger. But at the same time you expect them to live in the same house you built 30 years ago.
That expectation is a contradiction.
If your son or daughter earns 10x more than you, their lifestyle will also change. Their city may change. Their home will change. Their world will change.
They are not going to live in the same house.
Every 15-20 years homes become outdated and people move to new spaces that fit their life.
So the house built with your entire life savings becomes irrelevant.
Invest in their education. Invest in their freedom. Keep your money liquid. Use it to improve your own life.
But please stop sacrificing your entire life to build a house for them.