Have more than one kid or donโt have any at all.
Disclaimer for fertility issues but if thatโs the case surround your kid with families with more than 2kids and donโt assume you know everything because you know nothing. Only one kid teaches you nothing but biases.
I also mad it clear that family is my priority. I will work long hours if needed but have no desire to climb the ladder. Itโs okay to be a really hard worker bee that isnโt striving to be a manager or higher
I entered the workforce for a second time almost a year ago today. The first was right out of college with a masters in accounting working for a big 4 firm, I worked crazy hours but gained a ton of experience.
After 5 years in public accounting, I was burnt out and was blessed with a husband that could provide for us. I stayed at home for the next 8 years having 4 beautiful babies in 5.5 years
Long story short. Make smart decisions. If you are going to college and want to be a homemaker, choose a major that is always needed, make sure you can support your family, if god forbid something happens.
I met with a couple recruiters and the first one had an interested company. They wanted to pay less, I told them I wasnโt interested for less. 3 interviews and about 7 days later I had a job offer. Making the same I made when I left the workforce 8 years ago
After a lot of discussion we decided I would put feelers out for positions almost little over a year ago. I was nervous but it is hard to survive on one income as a family of 6 unless you have a lot of resources.
โCook like your grandma!โ
Meanwhile, our grandmaโs recipes are like:
Mix crisco with ritz crackers, a cup of sugar, & a few drops of food coloring, then bake in a jello mold with processed cheese product. Top with mayonnaise or miracle whip, for the health conscious
Saweetie says she struggles to find a loving man because her ideal man is a man that earns 8 figures yearly, emotionally intelligent and with 8 inches. She said she barely meet men like that and the ones sheโs met have a wrong perception of her ๐๐
โI struggle with relationships because my standards arenโt even high but they arenโt met. I want an emotionally intelligent man that makes 8 figures with 8 inchesโ๐๐
Pick a lane, ladies.
You can be strong independent women with agency who make your own choices. In which case if you "end up" staggering drunk in a man's bed, we get to presume that you wanted to be there and any sex that happens is consensual.
Or, you can be helpless little flowers buffeted not just by the winds of fate but by errant breezes, ending up staggering drunk in mens' beds through no choice of your own - passive victims of their bestial urges.
I'm okay with that frame, too, but only if you give up voting and spending money without the permission of your father or husband.
This Schrรถdinger's-pussy thing where you oscillate between infinite and zero agency at your whim? Not stable, and the contradictions are eventually going to come around to bite women on the ass. All women, not just the ones playing shitty games.
Choose wisely.