I think one of the most important things I learned this past year is that goodness is more sustainable than perfection.
Perfection is rigid. It leaves no room for rest or revision.
Goodness is spacious. It allows you to change your mind.
To apologise without self-flagellation.
To choose ease without needing to justify it as strategy.
I no longer believe that struggle is proof of seriousness.
I no longer believe that being misunderstood is the worst thing that can happen.
The most difficult lesson I've learned as an adult is the unending need to survive regardless of how tough my situation is or how broken I may be inside... Yet through it all, I find a strength I never knew I had because despite the heaviness, I'll keep moving!
This era of my life is βI know my worth, how can you add to it?β
No more energy vampires. If you're not pouring into me with the same intention and love I have to offer, my energy is sacred and I will be protecting it as such.
Life transitions are so hard. It's a beautiful place to be, but also a challenging one. It's moving forward, while also failing and moving backwards. It's finding new parts while remeeting old parts. It all makes sense and doesn't. It's exhausting but have energy to keep going.
in my defence, I didn't ask for any of this;
a mind that would not stay quiet, a head that keeps spinning on a swivel, a heart wound that would not heal, anxiety,
Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn't measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It's not in winning battles that makes you happy, but it's how many times you turned away and choose to look into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring.
If you're selfish to the selfish, you're at war,
and if you're selfless to the selfish, you're being exploited.
However if you're selfish to the selfless, you're exploiting the noble,
but when you're selfless to the selfless - you're in love.
One of the best questions you can ask yourself is "what one thing am I not doing that I could do which would improve things for me right now?"
Make the change.
See the improvement.
Rinse and repeat.
A simple question, but an effective one.