Let me also say that lately I think childfree people have way too many fucking opinions about parenting and raising children, especially toddlers. No you don’t know it all sometimes you HAVE to be a parent to understand parenting. Like shut up and book your brunch date in peace
Just some perspective, it took me 2 years to build a £6k investment portfolio.
Now, on very good days, the portfolio can generate that amount in a single day.
If you think what you are investing is too small today, I started like that too. so, stay the course.
It is absolutely normal for humans to seek companionship. We all do, in our own little ways.
My issue is that this whole narrative about “obsession” gets thrown around loosely, and I think a lot of people have lost the plot. Y’all are somehow beginning to frame the desire to find a companion & get married as though it is abnormal, when it really isn’t.
I am afraid, this does not fly, in my opinion.
If you deliberately establish a “first-name” culture, it should apply broadly, including to senior leadership, unless the policy explicitly carves out the board (by the way, imagine setting a culture and it is not starting from the top).
Yes, non-executive directors occupy a different governance position from employees and executive management, but their unique position within the company does not inherently exempt them from the first-name policy.
If a company says “we operate a first-name culture. Irrespective of seniority, employees address one another by their first names”, then having an unwritten exception “but obviously you don’t call a director or person xyz by their first name” undermines the philosophy behind the policy.
After all, the purpose of a first-name culture is usually to reduce unnecessary status signaling, make senior people more approachable and create a less hierarchical working environment.
If management wants the convention to be “first names for everybody below the board, formal titles for directors”, then say so.
It is highly problematic when the written or communicated policy says one thing while an invisible hierarchy says something else.
What is all these talk about “wisdom”, “culture”, etc.? If those things indeed were a big deal, why the performative stunt of “first-names policy”?
Or why is no one directing the “wisdom” yarn to TOE that the young lady is still very young, maybe inexperienced, and does not understand yet how things ideally work, and so you do not come off as conflicting what the laid-down principle is publicly?
If the irritation comes from “I am way older and way above you in status”, was that not considered before setting a policy? You all didn’t know that?
You import the form of an institution without accepting the behavioural implications that give the institution meaning. The company gets to present itself as having a flat, progressive culture without senior people actually surrendering any of the status markers associated with the old culture.
This is how we bastardise concepts and principles.
If the organisation is not comfortable with the consequences of that philosophy, there is much cleaner solution… “Simply don’t adopt the policy”.
Be hierarchical. Be formal. Require whatever title or whatever conventions you consider appropriate.
I wouldn’t call TOE by his first name too, but that’s me. But saying “we are on a first-name basis here” and then humiliating someone doing that is an inconsistency that is worse.
At the heart of it, this really speaks to a broader problem of weak institutional culture and “big-manism ” in the corporate world, where formal policies supposedly apply to everyone until they clash with status and hierarchy.
“Can you call Aliko or Femi Otedola by their first name?” Let them not implement first-name policy if it would be an issue or if the “cultural context” is that very strong (and that would be perfectly fine).
Institutions should be stronger than personalities. Let’s quit all that performative nonsense.
Nigerians reinforcing our chains. If people have to read the room before following company policy inside the company, then the policy is pointless and should be abolished.
HOW IS THIS NOT OBVIOUS????
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It has just been reclassified as a Category 1B CMR (Carcinogenic, Mutagenic, or Reprotoxic) substance with reproductive implications.
Some questions answered here:
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