If I had a naira for every "I'm in a position where I don't know what to do with my life" DM I've received, I would be a billionaire by now. In dollars o! Lol.
So, just to generally and briefly address this.
To the people who fall in this category, know that, the feeling is normal. You are not the only one who gets to 25, or 30, or 35 and still get that career path uncertainty. The feeling is so common it should have a public holiday.
The thing is, the people who eventually find clarity don't find it by thinking harder. They find it by doing something. Anything, honestly. They try a thing, it works or it doesn't, and that result tells them more about themselves than 10 years of thinking ever could.
The real problem isn't that you don't know what you want. It's that you're trying to be certain before you begin. And life doesn't work that way. You don't get the answer before you attempt the question.
So you scroll. You compare. You watch someone your age announce a promotion and feel a very specific kind of dread that you can't even fully explain. You make a list of "possible careers" and stare at it like it owes you something. And the weeks pass.
You need stop trying to find the perfect path and start trying to find the next step. Just one. Something small enough that failure wouldn't ruin you. It could be a side project, a conversation with someone doing work you're curious about, a short course, a single freelance job. Not a leap. A step.
And talk to real people. Actual humans who will tell you the unglamorous truth about what their day actually looks like. Five honest conversations will do more for your clarity than five months of overthinking ever will.
Also, and I say this with love, stop treating "what if I choose wrong?" like it's a reason not to choose at all. Most wrong turns aren't dead ends. They're just detours. You pick up something useful on every road, even the ones you eventually leave.
Compared to my peers, I have never achieved anything in my life and career at record time.
Never.
I am the queen of trailing behind.
I would fail exams multiple times.
Fail aptitude tests
Fail at interviews
Fail at getting promoted
I stayed in roles and grades for longer than I should have.
For me, life seems to drag.
It is a pattern, and that is the story of my life.
I would try really hard, but I would fail.
I would debrief on why I couldn’t hit key milestones and see some valid reasons; sometimes, they wouldn’t make sense.
This bothered me every time I introspect, but then it stopped bothering me.
At least not so much anymore.
The reason is that I am pretty resilient.
My journey is complex, thorny, uncertain and quite complicated, but I seem to stay the course.
I realised that I do not get demotivated, no matter the number of ‘No’s I get.
It just fuels me instead.
I think that’s a superpower (what do you think?).
And I show up again and again and again because I want it badly.
So, whatever I have achieved so far in my life is not because I am good at it from the first time; it is mainly that I have become so resilient that I stay on the hill until I get it.
This is my story.
I have begged before I got
I have scraped before I ate
I have stayed knocking before the door opened for me.
There was hardly any magic or any leverage.
My leverage is my resilience, and I use it to my advantage.
That’s how I win.
Maybe that's how you win, too. I'm not sure, but you know better.
Go and be fantastic today.
#Orebukola
Your biggest superpower is that no one knows you yet 🔥🔥🔥
Now is the time to prepare for your unveiling.
Now is the time to put in those hours.
Work like your life depends on it, because it does.
Read, study relentlessly, learn from experienced people around you, and chase opportunities to grow.
Now is the time to build without stopping, without excuses, without looking back.
Now is the time to make decisions based on who you're becoming, not who you are.
No one cares about you just yet, but they soon will.
When they do, you better be worth it.
When the microphone is handed to you, there better be substance behind that voice.
Now is the time to raise your standards so high that your old self wouldn't recognize you.
Now is the time to prepare for the future you've been praying for.
Now is the time to invest your money in buying your tomorrow.
Now is the time to invest your time in the business that builds you as a person.
When you step into the arena under the full stare of the world, you better have a message that creates tremendous impact.
Stop watching the clock and start moving with purpose.
Let who you are today meet who you need to become.
Your time is coming, and when visibility arrives, you will either be revealed as someone extraordinary or exposed as someone unprepared.
Make sense?
Go and be fantastic today.
#Orebukola
The version of you that got rejected needed to be rejected.
It was not suitable and ready for the future that has been prepared for you.
If you weren't told that NO, would you have doubled down?
If you hadn't failed that exam, would you have read more, made more sense of it, and applied the knowledge to real-life situations?
If you had signed those deals easily, would you have networked better and met more people?
If you had gotten that promotion the first time you applied, would you have been better prepared when you eventually got into grade?
If you had got the job the first time you applied, would you have learnt how to do the hard close and sell yourself better?
If your small efforts had yielded many results, would you have built resilience?
You got rejected because you needed to go back to the drawing board.
You got rejected not because anyone dislikes you.
You got rejected because there is a clear gap and opportunity to step up and be better.
You don't like raw food; you want it cooked, seasoned, and plated nicely.
That's what you need to become to be attractive for those opportunities to come knocking.
There are heights you will grow to that there will be zero margin for error, and the stakes will be so high that a mistake can ruin your reputation.
So enjoy the NOs NOW
Take the feedback NOW
Embrace the learnings NOW
Take it all in now when the stakes are lower and build the structure of strength.
Make sense?
Go and be fantastic today.
#Orebukola
Earlier this year, I got a gig that was way above my skillset. I panicked but took the job. I convinced the client that the job would be nothing short of perfect. Then, I began to pray daily for the Spirit of wisdom and grace for diligence in this work. I used Bezalel and Oholiab as references to God in my prayers and held on to Philippians 4:13 as my mantra.
Long story short, after the job was done, the client was so impressed, he called me aside, told me I was due for a bonus and then gave me a cash bonus of $300.
Three nights ago, as I was rounding off my prayers, the Lord brought the story of Gideon to my mind, it was unexpected as I hadn’t studied the book of Judges since last year. What followed was an unexpected exposé. As I pondered on the story of Gideon, I thought to myself, “You know what I find most fascinating about the story of Gideon? Its how the least person from the weakest clan in one of the smallest tribes would blow a trumpet and 32000 men would come running. What sort of magic was that?”
Here is what the Spirit laid in my heart as a response. “I know its a popular saying that God doesn’t only call the qualified but qualifies the Called. But that’s not all. He bestows upon the Called, the grace that qualifies him for the calling.”
God’s grace is often said to come in two dimensions; His saving grace and His enabling grace. His enabling grace empowers us to do His will. In Judges 6:34, Scriptures explains to us how Gideon was empowered with enabling grace to have such influence over the 32,000.
It says “But the Spirit of the Lord came upon Gideon; then he blew the trumpet, and the Abiezrites gathered behind him.”
He had such influence because the Spirit of the Lord came upon Him. So, clearly, a man can obtain grace from God to outperform the best version of himself.
It is the will of God that we prosper and excel in the assignments we find in our hands but our struggles and failures can be largely attributed to our failure to obtain grace to do those things.
So, if you’re currently struggling in your career, studies, relationship, marriage, in parenthood and even in your spiritual life, learn to go back to Him and ask for a bestowal of grace. Grace to do and be all that He has called you to do and be.
The writer of Hebrews encourages us to come boldly to the throne of grace to obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need. And aren’t we always in times of need?
“And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” - II Corinthians 12:9
One day you'll realize the amount of potential you had, and how it was all wasted away because you chose comfort over effort, and there will be no one to blame but yourself. That regret will haunt you forever.
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I read a quote that said
“The faster that you do the hard things you want to avoid, the faster you will receive the good things you actually want”
and that has changed my whole perspective.
Never apologize for being obsessed. Read all day. Work all night. Run for hours. Forget time exists. Be everywhere, but be a ghost. Turn off the world and create your own. Let craft become compulsion. Positive obsession is a gift, disguised as a curse.
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You should have a circle that solves problems—not just talks about them.
If you have 10 friends, and not one conversation has led to a core growth strategy, you’re just in a social club, not a wealth-building circle.