okay now I’m really gonna leave im so thankful for all the armys I’ve met and giggled with on here. Boraweek was amazing I still can’t believe I saw them live, 9 year old would never fucking believe it. But Twitter makes me too parasocial i get too much bts content on here. 😪😪
update: thank you for the suite that gave him freebies!! all of them are so genuinely well thought out and amazing. opening it felt like i was opening pr 😭😭 AND I LOVED SEEING THE BUSINESS CARDS, YES SUCCESSFUL ARMYS!!(also ironically the ticket was my row n seat on the floor)
I think this situation has shown us why accountability, empathy and personal responsibility all matter at the same time. Everyone has their own choices, choices that neither you nor I can make for them.
We can influence people, educate them, share our perspectives and explain why something may hurt or disappoint us, but ultimately, the decision belongs to the individual. Namjoon and Hoseok attending the concert and taking a picture was their choice, and whatever the reasoning behind that choice was is ultimately something only they know.
We can question it, criticize it and feel disappointed by it, but we should be careful about turning assumptions into facts when we don't know the entirety of their relationships, conversations, intentions or what they knew. There are so many “why,” “what if” and “maybe” questions that we simply cannot answer from the outside. And yes, people are allowed to ask for an apology. People are allowed to want accountability.
But when you demand an apology, I think it is also important to question yourself: Is this genuinely coming from a place of wanting accountability and understanding, or am I demanding this because I need this person to apologize in order to feel heard or satisfied? If I received that apology, would I genuinely accept it? What would I do afterward? Accountability should be about learning, reflection and growth, not about humiliating or punishing someone forever.
We also need to remember that ARMY is an incredibly diverse fandom. There are young people, older adults, people who discovered BTS for fun, people who found comfort in their music, people who found an escape from their struggles and people who found a reason to keep going another day. Everyone comes from a different place, has different experiences and understands situations differently. That doesn't mean we have to agree with each other, but it does mean we should learn to listen without immediately attacking one another. If someone is disappointed, don't harass them. If someone doesn't understand why people are hurt, educate them. If someone has a different perspective, have a conversation instead of turning them into an enemy. You don't help someone grow by making them feel hated or ashamed.
And I think this situation has also shown us something deeper about our relationship with BTS: BTS can inspire us to change our lives, but they cannot be responsible for changing our lives for us. You can look at BTS and become inspired to take better care of yourself, become more confident, help others, find your voice or keep going through difficult times, but you cannot demand that BTS make choices for you or change themselves to fulfil your personal emotional needs. At some point, we have to ask ourselves, “Am I trying to make this person change because I genuinely believe accountability matters, or because I need them to change so that I can feel okay?” Maybe instead of only asking what BTS should do, we should also ask ourselves what we can do from here. How can I show my love for BTS while also helping myself and the people around me grow? How can I educate instead of attack? How can I support people who have experienced violence without losing compassion for people who may see a situation differently? BTS are human beings before they are artists and idols. They can make mistakes, make choices we don't understand, disappoint us and still be human beings deserving of basic humanity.
They have dedicated an enormous part of their youth to us. They have given us their music, their time, their stories, their energy and so much of themselves. They don't have to dedicate their entire adulthood to living according to our expectations. We cannot control who they spend time with, where they go or what choices they make. We can only decide what those choices mean to us and what we choose to do with our own values.
@_aeiysha it would be enough for you but i promise it wouldn’t be for most😭 i'm trying to be realistic the apology probably isn’t coming so you’ve got 2 choices either move on and trust they’ll do better because they definitely heard us or keep going and drive yourself insane over it
@_aeiysha what i'm saying is if you Need the apology to make sure they're on the right side of history then the doubts are already in and its better to take a step back..
@jminahs I don’t like CB and haven’t once I was old enough to know what a shitty man he is. Was it disappointing sure but I also know that they have openly consumed that man’s music for years… so why is everyone being like this now?
the way it's the first time we were all agreeing on smth we ALL agreed them going to that damn concert was shitty. there's just one side that treats them like humans and hope they reflect whether it's privately or publically and the other that entered a psychosis 😭