People purposely act obtuse when it comes to shaving and adhering patriarchal beauty standards. Is it so hard to admit a choice you make is influenced by harmful standards and beliefs. You’re not being told to stop, you’re being told to think
if you find yourself wanting to shave before having your body seen by other people (going swimming, wearing something revealing, seeing a partner) then that's a good indicator that shaving isn't actually just your personal choice and is most likely the result of societal pressure
I think the long gaps between seasons of shows are a huge part of how insane fandom has become. people get SO invested, and have years to tell themselves what the show is. their opinions about characters calcify until any evolution is seen as the writers making a mistake.