I think when you’re transitioning from being a people pleaser to someone with more boundaries it’s so weird, because it’s hard to tell if you’re being mean or if you’re just listening to your own feelings because you’re so used to this & only thinking about others
this message is for my fellow FOBs….. do y’all remember the first time being questioned/laughed at for eating with both a fork and spoon? pls tell me if this is a universal experience or if i was just getting bullied 🫠
my toxic trait is taking the blame for all arguments/conflict, knowing i did nothing wrong, just to make the issue go away……… is this a trauma response? LOL