The punctuality nazis will hate me for saying this, but the reason they don't accept disability as a valid reason for being late is because their denial is part of the soft eugenics pipeline. 🧵
oh my god is it ever. Everyone in this discourse is like “if you keep being late why aren’t you annoying in a different way” that way produces WORSE results actually
Low key think people forget they also find *extremely earliness* annoying, tbh (which is one of the ways ADHD ppl cope with time blindness)
It’s just not socially acceptable to complain that your friend always shows up too early, so nobody bitches about that
A short while ago “spoons theory” discourse was common online, now understanding of mental health issues has regressed to “Being disabled means you can never do something, if you can do it once then you’re not disabled”
I think yall are really missing the “moral failing” part of this like yes someone who is chronically late is going to have natural consequences from the society we live in but that really mostly affects them, I do not take it personal if someone is not a good employee, that doesn’t make them a bad person lol and the moral high ground *most* of you act like ur preaching down from is exactly the puritanical shit i’m talking about.
ok im gonna explain this as simply as possible. you know when you want to do something and then take steps to do said thing? well theres actually several mental processes involved in making that happen. these are the executive functions 1/9
the thing about adhd is you’ll read these long threads full of a thousand little strategies people adopt, always stacked because one redundancy is never enough, and you’ll expend all this mental energy, still end up late, and a neurotypical will go “if you cared you’d be on time”
what i’m gathering from the autism work accommodations/meltdown discourse is that a lot of people don’t understand that:
1. public facing/service/retail jobs are most available to autistic people. in many cases.
2. most can’t disclose their dx because of right to work laws.
@JohnJingle65288 The fact that you are naturally good at the skill of time management does not make it stop being a skill. You should give yourself more credit for intuitively understanding it the way many others struggle to.
I’m learning, but it’s slow going. people should at least learn.
The phrase “you have the mental capacity to reason out how long preparation and travel will take”
does spiritually feel like someone saying “you have the ability to reason out how to play violin.”
like— yeah. it’s still going to take me years to get to where you are though
@liannanannerss If you have a cell phone that can have infinite alarms, and the mental capacity to reason out how long preparation and travel will take, then you have no excuse to be late to anything.
Augment your brain with your device to overcome four disability.
It’s really that easy.
Before I was diagnosed with adhd my friends would just lie to me about what time things were so I’d show up on time, or they’d accept that I was going to show up an hour or so late to whatever if timing wasn’t important. I felt very loved by that. When I was finally diagnosed
I saw that post that was like “there’s no way this is real this is just a metaphor for how she can’t feel her grief in the moment” and like yeah maybe I guess.
but as you can see from this post and the quotes it also. Happens. You can look inappropriately nice for an event!
people read this as “my mom sucked so I hate women” but the point is that when you’re not close with your mom she doesn’t teach you social rituals that girls participate in. and when you don’t do them other girls don’t assume that you Don’t Know. They think you are Being a Bitch
“girls w no female friends are a red flag” no a lot of us just had weird moms okay like sorry the first lady i ever met hated my guts for some reason and it resulted in me being an off-putting brunch companion forgive me
“ace should’ve asked garp for help—“ “garp was waiting on ace to ask—“ ACE SHOULD NOT HAVE TO ASK HIS OWN GRANDFATHER FOR HELP HE DIDNT HAVE TO ASK LUFFY OR THE WHITEBEARD PIRATES FOR HELP BUT THEY DID SO ANYWAY THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR GARP
when i was 260 pounds, people treated me like a dog. when i was 200 pounds, people treated me like a dog who did a cool trick & deserved treats contingent on more cool tricks. when i was 120 pounds, people treated me like a person! then i hit 90 pounds & everyone was like Omg Why
One of the reasons people don't recognize ADHD as a disability is that they see ADHD struggles (with things like organisation, tidyness, timeliness, communication etc) as personal failings. That is ableism.