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@ChisomAgbafor This is my current state...
One moment, it looks like I'm on track. The next moment It's all complicated, and I just feel lost.
Not because of financial irresponsibility or recklessness.
One moment, life feels like it’s finally going your way.
The next, you’re stuck — feeling like you’re back to square one.
You sit with the pain, trying to figure it all out, but you keep moving because going back isn’t an option.
Such is life.
The problem is that you run away when it gets tough. You tend to avoid confrontation; you always want to play it safe.
This is why you will likely experience another broken relationship this year, adding another failed business venture to the list.
It's not a bad prophecy. You just have the habit of running away from bad days.
Selah
Some of you are very wicked.
It is not being unemotional... You are just wicked.
You get babe; call to checkup in the morning, you will not.
This weekend now, you will go to see the guy/girl... Ordinary buns your conscience will not tell you to carry.
The way you are dating that person; if dem date you like that, will you like it?😒
GM o
Hearing your partner's needs is one thing. Listening to your partner's needs is another.
Hearing means I'm aware you desire this; listening means I'm going to help fulfil this need.
If your partner has an emotional need or expresses an emotional need, see that you don't only hear but listen.
It's been discovered that partners who do not respond to an emotional need or do not respond on time open the way for resentment and withdrawal.
Do some reflection and become better.
One mistake I see ladies especially make, is blaming themselves for the lack of proper values in the man they are with.
You need to understand that it's not about his love for you or not, it's about his personal values to uphold the institution of marriage in integrity, his personal commitment to stay faithful to the one he has chosen to be with.
This decision to be a committed man is one he needs to make before you step into the picture, not one he has to make because of you.
If it isn't in his values to be a faithful man, please gently pack your bags and leave. Avoid future regrets by taking this step to quit it now.
You won't marry wrong, God bless you.
One mistake I see ladies especially make, is blaming themselves for the lack of proper values in the man they are with.
You need to understand that it's not about his love for you or not, it's about his personal values to uphold the institution of marriage in integrity, his personal commitment to stay faithful to the one he has chosen to be with.
This decision to be a committed man is one he needs to make before you step into the picture, not one he has to make because of you.
If it isn't in his values to be a faithful man, please gently pack your bags and leave. Avoid future regrets by taking this step to quit it now.
You won't marry wrong, God bless you.
@MakuachiM5962@pallnandi I kinda disagree, though.
That someone is in love with you doesn't necessarily translate into the person accepting truth; harsh truths especially.
@oTHATS_Likely@pallnandi Lol
I'm happily married to one of the sweetest souls I've ever known, so it isn't my reality.
What I was addressing is the state of many relationships from my experience as a coach and therapist over the years.
Let me share a true life story:
2 days after our wedding, my wife suddenly started gasping for breath around 12:30am, midnight.
Not that she's asthmatic or has any previous medical history or experience of such... but I woke up to see her seriously battling for her life.
I wrapped my left hand around her, placed my right hand on her throat, and rebuked in the name of Jesus, whatever was the cause of the issue...
Not up to 10 seconds after praying for her, she was restored back to normal, drank some water, and everything was fine like nothing happened.
Call me whatever you like, but there are circumstances where everything human and material will fail. Everyone will have to call on the God they believe in.
What happens in circumstances where the hospital is too far or lacks the needed instrument to treat the family member?
If you're a man reading this especially, one of the biggest pieces of advice I will give you is to rise up to spiritual authority.
Let me share a true life story:
2 days after our wedding, my wife suddenly started gasping for breath around 12:30am, midnight.
Not that she's asthmatic or has any previous medical history or experience of such... but I woke up to see her seriously battling for her life.
I wrapped my left hand around her, placed my right hand on her throat, and rebuked in the name of Jesus, whatever was the cause of the issue...
Not up to 10 seconds after praying for her, she was restored back to normal, drank some water, and everything was fine like nothing happened.
Call me whatever you like, but there are circumstances where everything human and material will fail. Everyone will have to call on the God they believe in.
What happens in circumstances where the hospital is too far or lacks the needed instrument to treat the family member?
If you're a man reading this especially, one of the biggest pieces of advice I will give you is to rise up to spiritual authority.
Learn the art of silence.
Learn to build quietly when you're in the season to.
Learn to act without desiring public validation as your reward.
The men who would be custodians of timeless secrets and solutions must be men who can put a hold on their lips.
GM 😊