*A SILENT SPOUSE "MAY" NOT BE A BLESSING*
After my session with a dear one, he went home and began to make adjustments in his mindset to certain things in their marriage. Some days later, the wife told him that when he saw that he maintained a grandstand on some of the issues they had, she stopped raising it or arguing about it.
The interesting part was when the wife said that she still goes ahead to do the things he keeps resisting behind his back, even if it means enjoying all alone by herself. I had a good laugh.
A young husband returned home one day and saw that his "silent" wife had packed her bags and left him to himself. He was in shock.
There are homes with silent disagreements but who keep patching things up for the "sake of peace". Married folks, know this today: A silent spouse is not always a blessing- your family may be on the verge of a breakdown. He or she may just have withdrawn into his or her shell.
It takes some degree of blindness for you to think that you can actually control anyone. If their hearts are not with you, it is just a matter of time before they withdraw their hands.
Have you heard someone say before that, "I withdraw my hands from your matter"? Before the hands were withdrawn, the heart must have been withdrawn.
There are silent husbands- they feel 'manipulated' by the wife's attitude, but they are quiet. Danger! Danger!
There are silent wives- they feel intimidated by the husband's assertiveness, but they keep shut. Danger!
"My wife is so quiet" may be self-deceit.
"My man does not complain" may be an illusion.
They just have built coping mechanisms. The day you discover, it may be too late.
Silence does not always mean consent. Silence must not be mistaken for agreement. Fight for oneness.
It is hearts before hands!
*II Kings 10:15 NKJV*
*“Is your heart right, as my heart is toward your heart?” And Jehonadab answered, “It is.” Jehu said, “If it is, give me your hand.” So, he gave him his hand, and he took him up to him into the chariot.*
How do you attain this?
Do not shut down your spouse's opinion. Do not make him or her feel stupid. Affirm their contributions as you negotiate the waters of decision-making.
Do not bury issues. Find the appropriate time to raise it in meekness. If you keep burying issues, you may soon bury the entire marriage.
Listen to what your spouse is saying and what they are not saying, also. Silence is heavy communication without words spoken.
Break the silence before it breaks your marriage.
*temilOluwa Ola, Eruwa*
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We prayed.
We shared testimonies of God's goodness to us.
We worshipped.
We got filled again.
We received prophetic words.
We had impartations.
Our lives can never be the same again!
THINGS TO PAY ATTENTION TO IN FRIENDSHIP
👉🏾 Mutuality (Proverb 18:24)
👉🏾 Generosity (Proverbs 19:6)
👉🏾 Loyalty (Proverbs 17:17)
👉🏾 Correction (Proverbs 27:6)
👉🏾 Genuine forgiveness (Proverbs 7:9)
👉🏾 Communication: This is the lifeline of every relationship,
IF YOU WILL GROW, SWITCH THE IMAGES
A dear brother shared that he grew up in a dysfunctional home and in poverty. His father would take no nonsense from anyone. There was a time he took his daughter to slap an elderly person who slapped her in the neighbourhood. Thank God for the "Abigailic" move of their mum.
He recounted that any time he had the opportunity to travel to his uncle in another city, the ambience, and atmosphere of love in the home was totally different. He saw a different kind of family. He knew that was the kind of home that he wanted. He decided to spend more time with his uncle’s family. Today, he has a great marriage and an amazing home.
Your decisions are shaped mostly by images that have become models consciously or unconsciously. The images you see have a stronger impression on you than you can ever know.
As a young boy, I would dress up in our complete traditional attire and bounce around in style saying, "I am Chief ___". That was the image I had.
A dear son in the faith said that before he met Christ, he had a strange love for one of the foreign rappers. He began to dress like him, make his hairstyle like his, and was about to get tattoos on his body. That is the power of imagery.
All you need to do is ask yourself why you do some things you do. Your decision is driven by the images you have built.
Why did Lot choose the land around Sodom and Gomorrah? It looked like Egypt.
And Lot lifted his eyes and saw all the plain of Jordan, that it was well watered everywhere (before the Lord destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah) like the garden of the Lord, like the land of Egypt as you go toward Zoar.
Genesis 13:10 NKJV
It looked like the land of Egypt. Remember that he came out of Egypt wealthy. That land reminded him of Egypt. Unlike Father Abraham who had dealt with that strange desire at the altar, Lot still carried that image and desire all around.
Lust is driven by images also. If you consistently view pornography disguised as movies, music videos, skits, and jokes, you will soon notice that your mind is comfortable with nonsense.
But if you begin to behold the glory of the Lord in His Word, there will be a transformation in your life. The Word is like a mirror, the closer you get, the better you see. You will also notice things that you need to work on.
As you behold the Word, and you open up to the Spirit of God, there will be transformation for the better.
But we all, with unveiled faces, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord.
II Corinthians 3:18 NKJV
What images do you have?
Do you have to replace them?
#temilOluwaOla
God can wake up the king to read the book but He won’t change what is in the book. When the day of your Favour comes and the king cannot sleep what record will you have in the book.
#wisdomfromthebookofEsther
Apostle Jide Ojo
Cough, cough, is someone thinking what we are thinking?😆
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