Jeremy Fox: therapist, academic author, dispeller of psychology myths. I specialize in EMDR and resilience. comedy + psychology facts, maybe not in that order.
Why Men are Suffering, What They Want from the Manosphere, and How We Can Help:
Thanks to @LisaBritton for joining me in this crucial conversation about how male mental health has plummeted, and how to create authentic, lasting solutions.
00:00 Introduction to Men's Mental Health Advocacy
05:39 The Shift Towards Supporting Boys and Men
08:04 Demonizing Male Ambition: A Cultural Analysis
10:24 Redirecting Male Energy: The Role of Sports and Gaming
13:23 Understanding Male Confidence and Capability
15:53 Reforming Mental Health Approaches for Men
18:42 The Importance of Male Therapists in Mental Health
21:22 EMDR Therapy: A Solution for Men's Mental Health
24:07 Breaking Down Ideological Barriers in Therapy
30:48 Navigating Ideological Differences in Therapy
32:30 The Future is Everyone: Gender Perspectives
34:27 Expectations and Gender Roles in Relationships
38:29 The Importance of Male Friendships
42:11 Supporting Men's Mental Health
50:29 Creating a Federal Office for Men's Health
Psychology research actually distinguishes between two types of self-awareness that are almost opposites in what they measure:
🧠Self-reflection: adaptive, curiosity-oriented, associated with "Openness to Experience" trait
🧠Self-rumination: maladaptive, threat-oriented, associated with Neuroticism trait (Trapnell & Campbell, 1999).
Selfishness or narcissistic preoccupation is closer to the rumination pole; paradoxically and unsurprisingly, narcissists often have poor self-awareness, because they resist actually becoming an accurate "object" of their own attention.
They think about themselves in terms of what assets they could lose/gain, not in growth terms.
@karenvaites@chronicle Hi, the same thing is happening with therapists! Grad schools are allowing people with no common sense to enter and graduate their programs with THERAPIST DEGREES.
@brockpierson@grok can you please make a video in this style of freud, Jung, and Adler coming onstage and showing off their analysis abilities, grainy 90s footage style
@Favwontmiss Trauma is something terrible that happened TO you, not something terrible wrong WITH you. PTSD is the mind’s rational attempt to adapt to the irrational and unpredictable.
@AlexAndBooks_ My study is either a graveyard of unread knowledge or a treasure trove like Smaug’s horde, depending on whether you’re a pessimist or an optimist
@katiebakes One of most striking parts of this spread is that saying "texting on their iPhone" in 2009 was the equivalent of saying, "hey, look at mr moneybags over there." It's amazing how far the iPhone has gone into mainstream consumption since then.
Trauma survivors are extremely vigilant and attuned to any detachment, hostility or hypocrisy they perceive in their therapist.
"Any insincerity, false politeness, hypocrisy or concealed dislike are always perceived, even if we think we can conceal them... If the analyst expresses subliminally detachment or hostility, the only authentic feeling on the part of the patient is protest."
– Sandor Ferenczi, in "Welcome, Trauma, and Introjection"
@reddit_lies If you think it’s a waste of time to be with someone 4 hours, that’s not the person for you. If you think no one is worth 4 hours of your unpaid time, you are cynical and clinically narcissistic.
@downbadcomment It's so important for couples to have honest conversations about their libido levels. If not, you're left in a lurch in a passionless bed death marriage.
Trauma survivors are extremely vigilant and attuned to any detachment, hostility or hypocrisy they perceive in their therapist.
"Any insincerity, false politeness, hypocrisy or concealed dislike are always perceived, even if we think we can conceal them... If the analyst expresses subliminally detachment or hostility, the only authentic feeling on the part of the patient is protest."
– Sandor Ferenczi, in "Welcome, Trauma, and Introjection"
"Obsession" film thoughts from a therapist:
the movie is so good in part because the love triangle element is such a reflection of the true yearning and pain that many people experience at one time or another. Both the main character, Bear, and his friend Sarah silently wish the person with which they're enamored would simply snap into an awareness of just how much they are loved. The difference is that Bear goes to unnatural lengths to achieve the "love" of his desired other, whereas Sarah gracefully, patiently waits for Bear's attention. I won't spoil what happens, as the film is worth your time. Let me know if "therapist reviews Obsession" in longer form is also worth your time.