The picture you carry inside your head of who you are, what you're capable of, what you deserve, and what's possible for you is the silent referee of every single move you make, and because you don't behave according to what you say, your goals, or what you want, your entire life becomes a mirror of that self image, your subconscious mind is simply executing the orders of that internal blueprint, which means the gap between where you are and where you want to be is just the mismatch between who you secretly believe you are and the version of yourself you keep trying to talk yourself into.
And this is exactly why people do not change unless they change their self image first, because things like goal setting, willpower, motivation, and discipline are all happening at the surface level of behavior while the internal picture stays exactly the same, you cannot out discipline your own identity for more than a few weeks before it pulls you back, which is why the only real way to change your life is to change the picture first, and once that internal baseline genuine shifts, the behavior follows by itself without a daily battle because your subconscious starts steering you toward a completely different home.
It is also why the exact same person keeps ending up in the exact same place no matter how much the outer circumstances change, because the brain operates like a guided missile that treats any mismatch between your reality and your self image as a problem to be corrected, and it always corrects toward the image, so you can land your dream job, lose 50 pounds, or win the lottery, but if your self image is still poor person or fat person or not good enough, your mind will unconsciously find ways to sabotage the opportunity, destroy the progress, and bring you right back home to the ceiling you set on yourself years ago, because the money or the success showed up but the internal picture stayed the same, and the picture always wins.
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My personal development as a PM has undergone a similar journey. Just finished @shreyas 's Product Sense course and I'll say this in the simplest terms - Shreyas is a personal trainer for your mind. Can't recommend enough!
For anyone that has experimented with fitness - you go through a journey of online workouts, apps and if you're lucky, you find a personal trainer who really makes you shine.
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9/ I think my biggest takeaway is that you must be conscious of which principles matter most to you. Make the choice that best serves those priorities, even if imperfect. Participation matters the most.
1/ A key tension that I've noticed in North American politics: Most people are socially liberal, but fiscally conservative. Yet North American political parties force us to choose between these values.
Some thoughts 🧵
8/ Democracy requires choosing the option that best aligns with our priorities, even if imperfect. Not voting doesn't change the system - it just lets others decide for you.
@shreyas So just trying to clarify - are you saying that someone who actually holds this to be true is a person who'd be open to updating their opinion no matter where new data comes from?
"Is strong opinions weakly held" even a valid philosophy to live by?
I rarely talk about any investments I make in myself because I believe it's a very personal journey. But if you're a PM and are serious about thinking strategically about your career, look no further than this *GOLD* from @shreyas. https://t.co/wckbGvnJd0
leadership heuristic:
when things go well - "we, the team deserves credit"
when things don't go well - "me, im accountable"
don't like it? then don't be a leader.