Why am I making this account?
The philosopher Ernest Renan argued that people are not slaves to race, language, or religion. What truly matters is the spiritual and moral community formed through history, and the ongoing will to live together. It consists of two things: shared memories from the past (of glory and of suffering), and a shared will directed toward the present and the future.
Because of this, I believe that no matter where you are, what your identity is, or which era you live in, all human beings are fundamentally connected. North Koreans, Chinese, Americans, South Africans; the rich and the poor; pastors and factory workers; people from agrarian times, modern civilization, or even the age of AI — these labels should not become reasons for opposition.
We all have memories of growing up, we have all longed for love, we have all struggled for a better future, and we have all felt the pain of family conflicts, the melancholy of time passing, and the anxiety of making a living. In these concrete, small emotions and memories, we are the same.
Every little emotion and every small memory is the real hinge that connects us.
What this account wants to do is slowly collect those shared small memories and emotions that are usually hidden behind labels.
If you have such a fragment of your own, submissions are welcome.
The Last Time I Saw Her
We first met in the summer of 2024, at a class meeting. She happened to be sitting next to me, and we hit it off almost immediately. We talked about the meeting, then moved on to our interests and other things. The conversation felt effortless, so we exchanged contact information.
Later, I discovered that we had enrolled in the same course. We started sitting together in class, which gave us more chances to see each other and talk. Little by little, we became familiar with one another.
One evening, she invited me to have dinner at a night market near campus. It was incredibly crowded, so packed that it was difficult to move. I tend to walk fast, and before long, she started falling behind. I kept walking, but every few steps I'd turn around to look for her, afraid we'd lose each other in the crowd.
Then, as I turned around once again, I noticed her gently holding the sleeve of my shirt.
I was caught off guard. But somewhere inside, I couldn't help feeling a little happy.
A moment later, she slipped her arm through mine, and we continued walking through the crowded market like that.
After that, we often went out for evening walks together. On our way back to the dorms, we'd walk side by side, so close that I could feel the warmth of her body. Our arms brushed lightly against each other with every step.
Those fleeting touches made it increasingly difficult for me to keep my feelings to myself.
Eventually, I worked up the courage to hold her hand.
I lowered my head, glanced at hers, and quickly reached out.
But the moment my fingers touched her hand, she jumped as if she'd been electrocuted and immediately pulled away.
I shoved my hand back into my pocket. Seeing how startled she was, I asked whether I'd accidentally touched somewhere that hurt.
She looked both surprised and frightened.
She told me she'd never held hands with anyone before.
Feeling embarrassed, I apologized.
"Sorry. I just couldn't help wanting to hold your hand."
She listened quietly without saying much.
Feeling increasingly awkward, I quickly changed the subject and started talking about the next day's classes.
Neither of us ever brought it up again.
Life went on as usual.
One afternoon, she borrowed my electric scooter. I lent it to her without thinking much of it.
By eleven that night, I still hadn't heard anything from her, so I messaged her.
"Where are you? What's going on?"
A long time passed before she finally replied.
"I'm in Yangzhou."
I was lying in bed, staring at the conversation, waiting for her to say something else.
While I was waiting, she posted something on her social media.
At almost the same time, my roommate casually mentioned that a guy from our class had driven to Yangzhou in the middle of the night and posted an update.
I looked at the two posts. They had the exact same picture.
I turned my phone face down on the desk.
I had no right to say anything.
I lay in bed, tossing and turning, unable to sleep.
By noon the following day, she still hadn't replied, so I called her and asked what had happened.
She said nothing was wrong. The scooter was still on campus, and the other guy would bring the keys back to me.
I just said, "Oh."
I wanted to ask what was going on between her and that guy, but the question never made it past my lips.
She gave a quiet "Mm" and hung up.
I stared at the disconnected call screen for a long time.
For the next week, I checked my phone almost constantly, afraid I might miss a message from her.
And yet, throughout that entire week, I never once reached out first. I didn't send a single word asking what had happened that night.
I was stubbornly waiting for her to make the first move. I wanted her to explain, to tell me there was nothing between them, that I had simply misunderstood everything.
But the entire week passed without a single message.
As my expectations repeatedly came to nothing, I gradually began to understand that perhaps her silence was an answer in itself.
So I decided to delete her contact and put an end to a relationship that had left me endlessly questioning myself.
But when the moment came, my finger hovered over the delete button for a long time.
I opened our conversation.
There were so many things I wanted to ask her.
What exactly happened between you and that guy that night?
Why did you leave without telling me?
Did you ever like me?
Did I ever matter to you?
Were all those beautiful moments between us just an illusion?
I thought about it again and decided to let it go.
I quietly deleted the words I'd typed.
Even in the final second before deleting her, I was still imagining that she might send me a message first. Anything would have been enough. Even a single emoji.
But nothing came.
After deleting her, I switched off my phone, left it in the dorm, and went out alone to walk around the running track.
I walked for a very, very long time, from the afternoon until nightfall.
After deleting her, we never spoke again.
Until one day, something unexpectedly changed.
We had class that evening, but I didn't feel like going. I was planning to slip out through the back door when, just as I turned to leave, I caught a glimpse of her sitting alone in the classroom next door, apparently working on something.
My heart suddenly skipped.
This was my chance.
There was no one else in that classroom.
I quietly walked over and noticed she was studying for the civil service examinations, working on aptitude tests and essay writing.
I stood beside her for a while.
Then she looked up, saw me, and froze. Her eyes seemed to glisten with tears.
In a soft voice, she asked:
"What are you doing here?"
I took the opportunity to sit down beside her.
"I saw you here, so I thought I'd come over and talk."
She gave a quiet "Mm."
We started talking casually, catching up on each other's lives. But somehow, the conversation gradually drifted back to what had happened.
Trying to keep my emotions under control, I asked her:
"Why did you leave without telling me?"
She said she hadn't thought much about it at the time. The other guy had heard that her roommate was heartbroken after a breakup, so he suggested taking them to another city to get their minds off things. She simply went along.
I pressed further.
"Then why did you post the same picture? Why did you have him return my things? Didn't you realize what that might mean?"
She said she genuinely hadn't thought that far ahead. She had simply figured that since we all lived in the same dormitory building, he could drop the keys off on his way back, saving her the trouble of bringing them herself.
She hadn't realized it would cause such a misunderstanding, let alone have such a significant impact on our relationship.
The moment I heard that, I lowered my head and fell silent.
I sat there for a long time, slowly clenching my fists.
All the regret I'd been carrying, all the things I'd never managed to say, suddenly came rushing out.
I told her everything.
How much I had wished she'd contacted me first, explained what had happened, and cleared everything up.
How I couldn't understand why things had ended up this way.
She said she'd actually intended to come and talk to me, but by then I'd already deleted her. She hadn't even been given the chance to explain.
I could barely contain myself.
"I waited for you for an entire week!"
"That whole week, I was hoping for a message from you every single moment. Even one word would have been enough. But you said nothing!"
"Then I deleted you, and you never came looking for me either. You didn't even ask why."
"Even if an ordinary friend deleted you, wouldn't you at least ask why?"
"Did you ever really care about me?"
She quietly said, "I'm sorry."
I fell silent for a moment.
"Forget it. I was partly responsible too. This wasn't entirely your fault. I shouldn't have taken all my frustration out on you."
"I just really regret that things ended up this way."
She quietly told me that she was sad about what had happened too, and that she regretted it just as much.
After that conversation, we parted on bad terms and didn't speak again.
It wasn't until the end of the year, after the national civil service examination was over, that I finally felt a weight lift off my shoulders.
I asked a friend to help me add her back, and we got in touch again.
We started sharing bits of our lives, talking about what we'd been doing.
The following May, we returned to campus to work on our graduation theses. During that period, we often ate together and spent time talking.
One evening, our conversation turned to past relationships.
She asked why I'd broken up with my ex-girlfriend.
I told her it had been because of practical circumstances, not because we were incompatible or had some fundamental disagreement.
She kept asking what those circumstances were.
I eventually explained that we had different ideas about where our lives should go.
After hearing that, she seemed to understand something.
Then she told me about a guy she'd once really liked. He had been the one to message her first, but she was too afraid to respond because she never knew what to say. Sometimes, in the middle of a conversation, she'd simply disappear. Eventually, the guy got into a relationship with someone else, and whatever might have happened between them quietly came to an end.
She also told me about another guy she'd dated. After they had officially gotten together, she once looked through his phone and found flirtatious messages between him and someone else. She felt betrayed, as though he'd cheated on her, so she decided to end the relationship herself.
Then she told me something I'll never forget:
"If I don't think there's a possibility of something real, I won't be the one to start a relationship."
A few nights later, we were walking together when she suddenly said something else.
"You're the only person I've ever told all of this to."
I was quiet for a moment, then smiled.
"Well, I'm pretty glad you chose to tell me."
Days went by.
One evening, we were sitting at a barbecue stall when she suddenly asked me:
"Do you think I like you?"
I thought about it for a moment, then answered firmly:
"I think you don't."
She then asked what we were to each other.
I said:
"Close friends. The kind who can tell each other anything."
She was silent for a long time.
Then she said, "I suppose so."
Later, I walked her back to her dorm.
There were quite a few couples nearby, talking, hugging, and kissing. She looked at them, then turned to me with an almost innocent expression and asked what people were supposed to do in a relationship, what I would actually do if I were in one.
I was too embarrassed to give her a serious answer, so I joked:
"Whatever people are supposed to do. You know, like them."
At the end of the month, I went to Lhasa.
While I was there, I picked out a string of pink quartz beads for her.
On the day I returned home, something came up with my family, and I was in a hurry. We arranged to meet briefly at the university gate so I could give her the gift.
She asked why I'd brought her something.
I told her:
"Something about this trip to Tibet made me realize that I should cherish the people I care about. I bought gifts for everyone, and you're one of them."
Later, her sister invited her to Suzhou.
On the night she returned, she called me and asked me to come downstairs. She said she'd brought something back for me.
I went down in my pajamas.
She handed me a bottle of chili oil.
I froze for a second.
She asked why I looked so surprised.
I smiled and said:
"Unexpected, but somehow exactly what I'd expect."
The night before we were due to part ways, I really wanted to see her one more time.
I called her.
"Where are you? I'll come find you."
She said she was eating at a restaurant in the shopping mall.
"Don't move. I'll come to you."
I hung up and set off.
It started raining along the way.
I called her again and asked which restaurant she was at. I told her it was raining and that I hadn't brought an umbrella because I'd left in such a hurry.
She asked me to wait at a certain spot and came to find me with an umbrella.
I stood beneath the eaves.
I spotted her from a distance. She looked flustered, scanning the crowds moving in every direction, as though she were trying to see through the people themselves.
I kept waving in her direction.
After a while, she finally noticed me and hurried over, taking three steps for every two.
The first thing she asked was:
"Did you get wet?"
I laughed.
"No, no. Come over here. Don't get yourself soaked."
We smiled at each other, and I took the umbrella from her.
We walked side by side toward the little restaurant she'd chosen.
On the way, she told me something about the umbrella.
She said she'd never actually used the one I'd given her. Until that night, when she'd come to meet me, she'd never even opened it.
She'd noticed how neatly I'd folded it, and she was afraid that if she opened it, she wouldn't know how to fold it back the same way.
I laughed.
"Don't worry. I'll fold it for you. Just use it."
As I spoke, I tilted the umbrella a little further toward her.
Before long, we arrived.
It was a small family-run restaurant, lit by warm yellow lights.
She ordered a bowl of wontons and asked whether I wanted anything.
I waved my hand.
"No, I'm fine."
The food arrived shortly afterward, and she started eating.
I watched her quietly while absentmindedly arranging the umbrella she'd used.
When she finished, I suggested that we go to the McDonald's we'd passed so many times before but never actually gone into.
She worried that we'd order too much and wouldn't be able to finish it.
I told her we'd just get one portion of fries. What mattered was that I wanted to see the place.
She agreed.
We rented a shared bicycle. She sat sideways on the back, and by then the rain had stopped.
We rode through the damp streets, with the summer night breeze brushing against our faces. The air was cool in just the right way.
We chatted about this and that.
For that brief moment, we didn't feel like two adults about to go their separate ways.
We felt more like two high school students who had sneaked out together for a late-night snack.
Inside McDonald's, we sat across from each other, sharing a portion of fries.
She looked at me and suddenly smiled.
"I think you're quite romantic."
I grinned.
"Of course I am."
After we finished the fries, I walked her back to her dorm.
Under a streetlight, I finally gathered the courage to ask her for a hug.
She froze.
Almost instinctively, she took a step backward and shook her head.
"No. Maybe we should wait until we're wearing our graduation gowns or something."
The moment I heard that, I felt a little embarrassed. I found it difficult to accept.
Disappointed, I said:
"We were just out here together, enjoying the breeze and eating fries. Why can't you even give me a hug goodbye?"
"Why?"
She fell silent.
When she didn't respond, I decided to turn around and leave.
But she quickly grabbed my sleeve, repeatedly calling my name.
There was something in her eyes that looked like both reluctance and fear.
I asked her one more time for a hug.
But she still couldn't bring herself to agree.
So I stopped insisting and decided to walk away.
She kept watching me leave, saying goodbye over and over.
I heard her.
I stopped and turned around.
I stood there looking at her for a long time.
I wanted to wave goodbye.
But in the end, I didn't.
"I used to think she was my entire world. Then one day, I saw a casual video she had posted on TikTok. Her hair had been dyed oat-grey and styled in loose curls. She looked like some kind of wannabe emo girl.
That's when I finally saw her for who she really was.
I realized that the person I'd fallen in love with wasn't really her at all.
It was just an illusion I'd created by projecting my own feelings onto her."
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A man once invented a sport that didn't exist.
A few months later, people were complaining about it to the police.
He called it Gull Running.
The rules were simple.
You needed a skateboard, a portion of chips, and a town with a serious seagull problem.
One person would get on the skateboard, hold the chips out, and try to travel as far as possible before a seagull swooped down and stole them.
The distance you managed to cover was your score.
It was a ridiculous idea. That was the whole point.
But the strange thing about making up a story is that you never know how far someone else will take it.
Eventually, the joke started circulating beyond the people who originally knew about it.
Some older residents began complaining to the police about young people supposedly training seagulls to steal food.
Then the story somehow reached two different schools.
According to the man who started it, school administrators were warning students against taking part in this dangerous new activity, apparently concerned about the damage it could do to the schools' reputations.
Think about that for a moment.
Somewhere, an adult was seriously discussing a sport that consisted of teenagers riding skateboards while trying not to lose their lunch to a bird.
And the person responsible was probably somewhere nearby, knowing the entire thing had started as a joke.
The story even acquired what sounded like an official sporting record.
The longest run was supposedly around 400 yards before the competitor finally lost the chips.
The shortest ended almost immediately.
The seagull won before the skateboarder had properly got going.
Of course, those records were part of the joke too.
There was no official league. No governing body. No medals. No actual championship.
Just a made-up sport, a few seagulls, and a rumour that somehow became serious enough for adults to worry about.
I don't know what happened to Gull Running after that.
But somewhere, in a town full of people who believed it was real, there may still be someone warning teenagers not to participate.
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I once met a stranger at a business meeting who knew what I had hidden inside my childhood bedroom.
He had lived in my house before me.
It happened in Vancouver. I was attending a routine meeting at a law office. Two lawyers were already sitting in the boardroom when I arrived, so we started making small talk.
Somehow, we got onto the subject of local schools.
I mentioned the high school I had attended.
One of the lawyers, a man around fifteen or twenty years older than me, said he'd gone there too.
We compared teachers. It turned out that my old science teacher had taught him years earlier.
Then we discovered we'd attended the same elementary school.
Both schools were within walking distance of our childhood homes.
He asked which street I'd grown up on.
I told him.
He paused.
"Seriously? I lived on that street too. Which house?"
I gave him the address.
He stared at me.
"That's my old house."
I suddenly recognized his surname. It was unusual enough that I remembered hearing it before.
I asked him whether his father had been a doctor.
"Yes."
"My dad bought the house from your dad. You moved out in the summer of 1976, right?"
He confirmed it.
We were now sitting across from each other in a boardroom, discussing a house that neither of us had expected to talk about that day.
Then we started comparing what we remembered about it.
My childhood bedroom had been his bedroom.
He and his brother had installed a basketball hoop. Years later, I had used that exact same hoop.
There were thousands of hockey puck marks on the garage door. His family had made them, and my family had continued adding to them.
But then he mentioned something I hadn't thought about in years.
A hidden space in the basement, partially concealed behind a piece of furniture.
I knew exactly what he meant.
When I was a child, I'd discovered a small collection of old stubby beer bottles inside it.
He looked at me and asked:
"Did you find the stubbies?"
I said yes.
"I put those there."
I had just met the person who had left something behind in my childhood home decades before I was born.
Then he explained another mystery.
There was a small button above the fireplace in the den. I'd always wondered what it was for.
He told me that it had once been connected to a buzzer in the kitchen. His mother eventually disconnected it because he and his brother kept pressing it to annoy her.
The button had originally been installed when the house was built in the late 1920s. It was used to summon the household help.
By this point, we had spent a good portion of a business meeting reconstructing two childhoods through the objects and marks left behind in one house.
The strangest thing wasn't that we'd gone to the same schools or lived on the same street.
It was that, without knowing each other existed, we'd spent years occupying the same rooms, using the same things, and leaving traces of ourselves in the same places.
Eventually, the actual meeting began.
We were there to discuss tax planning for the following year.
I don't remember much about that meeting.
But I still remember the man who had once hidden beer bottles in my basement.
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