Aftercare IS a fucking necessity.
Aftercare IS NOT a privilege.
Aftercare IS NOT optional.
Aftercare DOES NOT take away from the scene you just had.
Aftercare DOES NOT make you any less of a Dom/sub.
Inviting my friends over while you're gagged and tied up in the bedroom. One of them goes looking for the bathroom just to find you. You can't help but moan into your gag. Embarrassing isn't it? Maybe he'll walk over and grope you instead of apologizing. Maybe more.
Pet Play PSA: Your sex or gender does not dictate your kink. Gay men don't own puppy play. Straight women don't own kitten play. You do you so long as it's consensual, respectful and you aren't being a jerk about it.