if love ever finds me again, may it come from someone who chooses me everydayy. not just in words, but in actions. someone who doesn't make me beg for time, for effort, for the bare minimum🫂.
For some men, losing an incredible woman can feel like freedom. Not because she was the problem, but because losing her means they no longer have to face the parts of themselves they were being forced to confront. They can go back to their old habits. The low effort. The emotional distance. The lack of accountability. The version of themselves that never had to grow because no one expected more from them. And they can call that peace. Sometimes a healthy relationship asks you to become more honest, more intentional and more emotionally mature. Not because someone is trying to change you, but because loving someone well requires you to look at yourself too. So if losing you feels like freedom to him, let him have it. You don’t need to convince someone that your love was valuable. People mistake the absence of accountability for peace because growth was never what they wanted.
Ask God to restore your appetite for life. Your ideas. Your energy. Your curiosity. Your confidence. Your hope for the future. Sometimes you don't need a completely new life. You need to reconnect with the parts of yourself you stopped nurturing.