My own mama threw parker at me and that shit went straight under my left eye and she wasn't remorseful and still beat me because I refused to eat after coming back from hospital that same night. She drilled my siblings and I, the kind of lie we have to tell my dad because hmmm
i remember my mum threw a pair of hair shears/scissors at me, straight at my head. it struck and penetrated deeply into the side of head, in my temple. she rushed to me to remove it gently and i could not stop bleeding.
she now started crying and begging me not to tell my dad-
DATING 101!
Dating is simply about getting to know someone deeply to see if a future is possible with them. It’s much more than going to expensive restaurants, smoking igbo together and lodging in hotel every other week!
It’s about spending quality time together, asking relevant questions and really knowing one another.
Know how they feel about their family of origin is like so you can predict what his/her own family would look like in the future. i
If they like the dysfunction in their own family, they would recreate it in theirs…
Know what their ideal future is like… do they like the idea of having a family abroad? would they lose respect for you if you’re earning like them? Must they be 5 steps ahead or behind before you can love them!?
Know if they like the idea of having a successful spouse and won’t be jealous nor stifle their growth…
Know if they have family values or if money is all and everything that matters to them… check if the presence or lack of money makes them erratic.
Know if they can do anything to make money or get ahead… if they are criminals who wouldn’t mind using their kids for rituals you’ll be able to tell… Also know if they can work as a cleaner in the interim to bring something to the table while gaining skills and job hunting or if certain jobs are beneath them and they’d instead die than do those jobs…
Ask questions about their health and check for compatibility… Genotype, PCOS, low sperm count, bad lungs because of cana etc, do a proper test and find out…
Check if their ego is more important to them than peace… if he would never say sorry because “men do not apologise” Know if they are unteachable… some people never want to be wrong. Lol
Know if they can disagree with you and love you while at it… does disagreeing with you result to prolonged fights and silent treatment?
Cohabit with them for months and see them for who they really are. You’ll be able to factcheck all their claims if you’re perceptive…
A dissolved relationship is always better than a dissolved marriage. Do everything possible to ensure you don’t miss it in marriage. That’s the reason you must properly date/know whoever you want to commit to for the rest of life, before you make it official…
You cannot love a person you do not know!
Loving in spite of your almost complete knowledge of a person (see finish) is where true love begins.
Where there is no knowledge, there’s no love.
This month, everything that looks like an embarrassment, that looks like it has not been settled, Ya Allah is giving me evidence, physical evidence to take off those tears, take off those pains. This month, evidence will actually full everywhere, it will be undeniable,
“I’m not a p£d0 ph!l£, I am not a r@p!st, Iyabo Ojo has kept Pricilla and her brother in my custody before when they were small”
- Baba Ijesha in a new interview after he got released from pr!s0n