I think friend betrayal hurts worse than betrayal from a partner because friendships are usually built on choice not obligation. A romantic relationship comes with expectations, jealousy, conflict, and the possibility that things might not work out. But a friend is someone who chooses to be in your life without any of that. They see your highs your lows & your insecurities, your wins, and often know parts of you your partner doesn’t. So when a friend betrays you, it can feel like they had a front row seat to your life and still chose to move against you. It’s not just losing a person it’s losing trust, memories, loyalty, and sometimes the version of yourself that felt safe with them. That’s why for me friend betrayal leaves a wound that’s harder to explain and longer to heal.
Anyway, just want women around me to understand, you need to start aspiring towards financial independence with the exact same urgency society wants you to aspire towards marriage.
I hope the feminist goddesses that fought for my right to have a license and a car know that I drive myself to cute restaurants and eat my own money when I’m down. I love them so much. The real Jesuses!
I’ve been “in the middle” in already established friend groups before and my perception is a lot of longstanding friendships didn’t successfully transition from youthful shallowness to emotionally mature, especially if many members come from a closed family/relationship system.
I have no interest in being around people who assign malicious intent to every mistake. If grace is reserved for no one, not even the people in your life, I can only imagine how harshly you judge strangers
I’m at that weird age where every younger person I meet makes me realize how much l've aged, and every older person I meet makes me realize I'm still a baby.
my therapist told me the only way to control your emotions is to show them. you can’t control sadness you never show. then your sadness turns to anger, hostility, bitterness and resentment. and you have officially created a monster.