just a chaos gremlin

I'm angry about a lot of things. you might be one of them.

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

Me with my Vyvanse: ADHD who? I don't know her
Me without my Vyvanse: ok, brain, I need you to listen very carefully.
My brain:

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

i am so tired of the normalization of men's weaponized incompetence. why does your wife need to lay out where everything is in the kitchen. you live there too. WHY DONT YOU KNOW WHAT IS IN YOUR OWN HOUSE.

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

@midaeros literally the best advice thank u 💕

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

Gettin real tired of waking up and nearly puking on a near daily basis 😮‍💨

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

My cat vs my girlfriend’s cat.

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

@AngryFeralKitty ehhh I’m not sure it speaks much to intelligence as much as it speaks to learned helplessness imo

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

People will literally find anything to blame for their difficulties w/ timeliness AND PUT THE ONUS ON OTHERS TO MANAGE THEM??? before taking accountability and admitting that maybe their inability to learn a skill makes them unreliable.

[bri love🇵🇸 @mclovenxoxo]

sorry you’ll never convince me that the “lateness is a moral failing” isn’t rooted in colonization and capitalism, it’s CONTROL!!! and I get we live in a society blah blah blah but if it’s ur friends you know is always late tell them an earlier time or whatever but acting like it’s a moral failing is so puritanical and silly sometimes you just got to accept people as they are

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

@cowgirl_bebop @midaeros Yeah scrolling through the replies made me go “ooooooh she’s one of those” and immediately handwaved her fuckass take because what the hell

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

@midaeros i'm scared to come visit lmao

[🤠 @heavensbvnny]

y’all have no respect for the ppl who make your life easier. the person making your morning coffee deserves a livable wage. the person stocking the groceries you buy deserves a livable wage. the person cleaning the restrooms in the office you work at deserves a livable wage.

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

@midaeros why is Baby auditioning for a scary movie???? who did that

[Calliste Camu 🐇 @CallisteCamu]

@nomanautomata I think what people who disagree with this are missing is the dialogue after the “why.” It’s not being shamed, it’s finding the deeper “why” and *addressing it.* ADHD is disabling, but we’re not gonna learn to manage it if we act like we’re just helpless to our own behaviors.

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

the amount of comments under this that are "that's not how ADHD works" and like,...yes it is. yes, obvi ADHD puts a lot of mundane things on hard mode but like...you still have a choice in how you deal with that. you don't have to be a helpless victim to your symptoms.

[Dan Nouement @nomanautomata]

The therapist who cured the worst of my ADHD symptoms repeatedly asked me questions like "why did YOU choose to procrastinate" and say things like "as an adult you're expected to do things"

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

i love my friends i love my friends i love my friends i love my friends i love my friends i love my friends i love my

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

time to make my squishmallow nest so my hips and shoulders are less likely to sublux in my sleep and wake me up with excruciating pain!

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

@midaeros Literallyyyyyy. I dont want to have to babysit my friends schedules just to be able to spend quality time with them 😭😭

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

@bitchbi45 Whoa no no I’m not shitting on you for that whatsoever. Literally just saying it sucks to have to jump through hoops just to have someone show up when they said they would.

My bad if that came off poorly, im rly glad you guys had a good time.

[dr. lars notedgoon, phd 🔞 @notedgoon]

I have some news for you about how ao3 came to exist

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

@midaeros yeah it's def a case of "two things can be true at the same time". friend's response sucked, and OP could have considered other ways to connect & display empathy.

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

@midaeros oh lordy. and OP is saying this is somehow abt adult women's relationships? like....can't u start with "what would be supportive to you during this time?" i've got other thoughts i won't put on a public forum lol

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

my gf's ADHD is way way worse than mine but after we talked abt how meaningful timeliness is to me, she immediately began putting in effort to respect that. it's literally just a skill. nothing abt moral value.

thanks for coming to my TED talk.

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

chronic lateness isn't a moral failing AND it sends a message abt your respect towards the other person/their time. like, sure if this is a completely immovable trait of yours, you've also got to accept it impacts how reliable you come across.

[matargashti-pilled 🇵🇸 @dilrhubarb]

I'm so tired of lateness being viewed as a moral failing. I've been shamed for it my whole life because it's framed as "disrespect" (and no, it hasn't helped me be more punctual) and if I lost out on a major life opportunity because of it I don't think I could have ever recovered

[just a chaos gremlin @queerandchaotic]

like, as a professional, if a client is constantly late, i can't provide the quality care they deserve AND it comes across as a lack of commitment to their own treatment. and if i was constantly late??? my clients would drop me in a HEARTBEAT.