Men will look at your breasts, butt, legs, past, waist, height and even your skin colour.
But BE CAREFUL: don't look at his wallet, otherwise you're a gold digger..
i actually think "surface level" friendships are very healthy. not everyone in your life has to be your ride or die. some friends are for the gym. some are for going out. some are just for complaining about work or bureaucracy. when you stop expecting everyone to be your everything, the disappointment disappears. those deep convos and connections are for the 2-3 people closest to you
The kindest thing you can do for yourself is to become a reader. Read the romance. Read the fantasy. Read the mystery. Read all kinds of literature. But never pick up a self-help book