I shoved a piece of crayon up my nose as a kid and had to go to the hospital to get it removed. A nurse tried giving me a coloring book and crayons for being a good boy and my dad said "don't give that retard anymore crayons"
Social media makes abandoning a relationship look incredibly glamorous. Your timeline is constantly filled with single people telling you to "cut them off," enter your "villain era," and "level up" the exact second the butterflies fade. People are violently throwing away perfectly good, loyal partners over normal human friction because the internet convinced them there is a flawless, aesthetic-perfect soulmate waiting on the other side of a breakup.
Men are not "intimidated" by your degree, your corporate job, your tax bracket, or your fierce independence. They genuinely do not care about your resume. What modern women call "intimidation" is actually just a man walking away because your combative energy, constant need to argue, and refusal to yield is completely exhausting. You aren't intimidating; you are just insufferable to come home to.
hardest pill i’ve had to swallow this year so far was learning that no matter how good you can be to someone, no matter how long you’ve been there for them, no matter how much you love them.. that they CAN & they WILL turn their back on you & there's nothing you can do but detach
I just saw a quote that said, “You worry too much for someone who figures it out every time” and I feel like I’m not the only one who needs to hear that.
relationships are healthier when the goal is to experience life together and not to try to make the person into who you want them to be or to make them do what you want them to do.
The most destructive piece of internet lore ever created is the phrase: "If they wanted to, they would."
It sounds empowering, but it is actually deeply narcissistic. It assumes that a person’s actions are dictated 100% by their desire for you, while completely ignoring their capacity.
A partner can desperately want to give you the world, but if they are fighting a silent financial war, battling burnout, or dealing with a health crisis, their capacity is at zero. Measuring a stressed partner's love strictly by their ability to "perform" is a lethal mistake. "If they wanted to, they would" is the fastest way to lose a fiercely loyal partner over a temporary lack of bandwidth.
someone said “when you lose the emotional attachment to them, you begin to realize how ordinary they are, and that it was your love and energy that made them unique” and i seriously couldn’t have worded it better