USA. A Mexican restaurant. We had not yet ordered anything, and the food was already arriving.
Chips. Salsa. Unrequested. Free.
I stopped the waiter. "We have not earned these."
"They just come with the table, man."
They come with the TABLE. In my land, hospitality is a debt. Every gift creates an obligation, weighed carefully, returned in the proper season with interest of feeling. Here, the gift arrives before you have even proven you can pay for dinner.
This is not an appetizer. This is a declaration: we trust you. Eat.
I ate with the gravity the moment deserved. And then — I must report this calmly — the basket emptied, and a new one appeared.
"Did we…?"
"Refill," the waiter said. "It's bottomless."
Bottomless. They have wells of salsa. The supply lines of this nation are beyond anything my ancestors imagined.
My friend warned me. "Don't fill up on chips, dude."
Too late. I had accepted three baskets. Honor demanded each one be finished — an unfinished gift is an insult. By the time my actual food arrived, I was a ruined man.
I was not hungry. I was not comfortable. I had been defeated by a courtesy.
Generosity that arrives before the request cannot be repaid. It can only be survived.
I know the rule now. I have made my peace with the basket. One basket. Two at the most.
Who am I deceiving. There is no number of baskets I would refuse. The trust of a nation is in that salsa, and I intend to honor all of it.
A little perspective for Lady Vol fans:
Don’t judge an entire fanbase by the loudest idiots on social media. Every fanbase has them. Lord knows Tennessee has more than our fair share.
Every Texas Tech fan I met at the WCWS this week has been nothing but respectful, welcoming, and passionate about their team.
And as for the money? Spare me. College sports have become an arms race. We celebrate NIL, facilities, and donor support when it benefits our team. We can’t suddenly act offended when another fanbase does the same thing.
The atmosphere in Oklahoma City has been incredible. Packed crowds, passionate fans, national attention, and programs investing in softball. That’s good for the sport whether we like who’s winning or not. Enjoy the games. Respect the fans. Save the hate for the scoreboard. Go Lady Vols 🍊
@chicagobulls League finds any way to keep someone even if they’ve been found with drugs, guns, beating their wives/gfs, and however harden acted during Covid, but yeah you’re right, Ivey having an opinion is detrimental to your team. Grow up.