For someone whose go-to in domestic chaos, is the silent treatment, I’ll give an unsolicited 2 cents on this.
-• Never go into it if you know within you that there’s room for reconciliation.
-• As the day go longer, the heart genuinely go less fonder of the person.
-• You begin to despise the littlest faults you used to ignore because of love.
-• You get overwhelmed by thoughts of only their shortfalls, tending to forget every good they ever did.
-• The more often you do it, the more you begin to actually hate the person, until you have no more love to give ‘em.
You are welcome.
I'll give married guys some free advice...
Chase your wife around the house. You turn something on in her. You guys become children for just that 4 minutes running around. 😉
Lift her off the ground. It says something to her mind. 😉
But if you want to keep the spark alive in the middle of a busy life, add these to the list:
Take over the dinner chaos. When she is staring down the pot trying to figure out how to feed everyone, stepping in and saying, "I've got this," or just ordering the Friday night pizza or food so she doesn't have to cook, speaks directly to her soul.
Handle the unsexy logistics.
Give her the gift of absolute silence. Sometimes taking the kids out of the house for two hours so she can just exist in a quiet room without anyone needing anything from her.
Flirt with her during the ordinary moments. A wink across the room while you are both cleaning up the kitchen reminds her that underneath the heavy titles of "Mom" and "Dad," you are still just two people crazy about each other.
Notice the invisible labor. Thank her for remembering the scheduling, the grocery, and all the behind the scenes magic that keeps the house running. It bridges the gap and silently says, "I see exactly how hard you work for us."
The movie romance is great, but the trenches of everyday life are where the real connection happens.
Show up for her there.
@Sandesor She's doing well now, thank you! it was so bad! We barely slept at night as she would run serious temperature.
Although common cold is like paper cut for us now...it goes round the class every other week 🤭
@Sandesor We were taken aback tbh. Apparently it's a normal yearly occurrence because of the weather. We were given ibuprofen & anti-allergy and sent home.