As someone who went to boarding school with kids who were sent to Nigeria because they were “stubborn” I’ll tell you for free it’s a waste of time, and your kids might actually come back worse.
Also, this country doesn’t do anything aside from producing docile young adults who can’t stand up for themselves or think critically.
I literally can’t wrap my head around the fact that there are women who live worse in their husbands house than they ever lived in their father’s house.
One thing nobody tells you about adulthood is how fun it is to become your own person. One day you randomly start liking jazz, olive green, expensive dark chocolate, documentaries about volcanoes, weird lamps, sparkling water, books about loneliness in Tokyo, silver jewelry and quiet cafés. Your personality keeps unfolding forever if you let it.
“Low effort friends,” meanwhile the whole time they may be at rock bottom, fighting for their lives, but still forcing themselves to show up because they don’t want to be those friends who always ruin plans or make excuses.
I have said it before: money makes you a better friend, partner, sibling, parent, colleague, etc. When you don’t have money, you cannot bring your thoughts to life. You turn down invites from friends to avoid embarrassment, and lowkey they begin to think you don’t like them like that.
Okay, then you decide to show up with the little you have, probably because your friends insisted that it doesn’t matter and they understand your condition. But you get there and realize everyone came correct, and suddenly you begin to feel small. You start overthinking everything; how you look, what you wore, what you ordered, what you could or couldn’t contribute.
I know we are all assuming because we do not know these people’s stories. However, it is not nice to label strangers “low effort friends” just from a video they made and posted themselves.
Also, if you are not liquid enough to comfortably show up for an event or gathering like this, I strongly advise that you don’t show up tbh. They will still see you as a bad or low effort friend anyway. But they’ll be alright. Only you truly know your story, your struggles, and how hard you are trying to stay afloat.
I don’t think Uzoamaka realizes how validating call of my life was, as these things
1. A girl who likes color.
2. A girl who has her walls so up because she doesn’t want to get hurt again.
3. A girl who loves with all her soul, after it’s earned.
4. An intentional gifter.
5. A hard worker.
6. A stylish girl: that scene with the chunky platforms and knee high socks did something to the teenager I was.
7. An intense girl
May you never lose your fire. And if you ever do, I hope the universe send you so much fuel.
He was intimidated by you before he even approached you. Some men resent themselves for feeling attracted to a woman they perceive as out of their league, so instead of approaching with confidence they try to humble you first to regain a sense of control. Men are losers