for centuries literature was obsessed with loves that consumed people whole. now everyone wants healthy relationships. whatever happened to devotion, obsession, possessiveness, the desire to devour someone’s body and soul? what the hell is all this healing shit anyway
I used to be soo stressed about money when I was a kid, for no reason. Gradually that anxiety evaporated and I genuinely wonder where the energy for all that worrying went.
“Oh my god you’re saying I need to go to orgies to find a wife and start a family?”
Here’s the real truth: live the lifestyle you are fulfilled by, that aligns with your values and makes you happy.
Then socialize with people with the same lifestyle, values and interests.
Don’t drag yourself to something just to meet women. Oh no my rave bae gf wants to go to raves… Your standards need to be higher than “cute female”
Live a lifestyle that makes you proud AND happy. There are many things we do that don’t make us happy just because it’s a status signal. There are many things we do that make us happy that make us ashamed of ourselves (rightfully so even).
@GrayConnolly I worry my art or writing would be trite. And I am uncomfortable with people and attention. But I'll get nowhere sitting on the couch I suppose, if I want to find friends