So much of being likeable is just being casually honest. Why are you doing this? Because I would be very down to get rich ngl. Why are you talking to them? Because they are attractive and I am into it. How you been bro? Fighting demons dude but we out here haha
Just keeps it real but in a nonchalant way with no ulterior motives. Not trying to elicit a certain response or craft a specific image. The fuck else you want me to say! There's humanness in that. Exude true self comfort and it will be perceived as innocent charm
You will never grow up until you kill your addiction to self pity, and there's no greater sign that you're still a child than believing you're owed something
Your sacrifices may not get acknowledged. Your efforts may not result in subjective glory. You need to accept this truth
Every "why me?" or "it's not my fault" will only self inflict more misery. Every attempt to bait for sympathy will only push more of what you want away
It is imperative that you rewire your perspectives. You don't have to take responsibility. You don't have to suck it up. You don't have to be a beacon of strength
You get to. Learn to find genuine peace in this and you will naturally and effortlessly turn into the attractive, charismatic, and confident person that previously felt so elusive to you
Change the lens you see through and the world will mirror that perception right back at you. Drop the anger. Stop wallowing. Embody gratitude for being conscious enough to dictate your own reality
Ex. She gave her dad a dog.
^ as we interpret the sentence we picture the das before the dog.
Makes for a weird model with the das standing around for no reason.
Ex.
Describing something as ‘scary’ can hardly be translated to a mental model.
But, describing something as dark and looming in the corner of the room allows the brain to build a more apt model.
Storytelling = model bundling.
When you tell someone a story their brain builds a model of the scene based on your descriptions.
That’s why you’ve been taught to show not tell.
Happiness is a choice.
But most of you are too scared to choose it.
You think it’ll kill your ambition.
It won’t.
It’ll just make the journey more enjoyable.
You don’t need misery to breed success.