That used to scare me too. But psychology has opened my eyes to the fact that this is not entirely true. You can truly tell. It is just that most of us are not fully aware how to.
People can only pretend for a while. People can only put on a mask for a while. It eventually falls off. You cannot fake who you are forever. The cracks always show.
You can read people's behaviors, mannerisms, and body language. The way they avoid eye contact when they are lying. The way their tone shifts when they are uncomfortable. The way they deflect when they are hiding something. The way their body betrays what their mouth is saying.
Words can lie. But patterns do not. Behaviors do not. Energy does not. But if you learn to observe, you will see the truth. You will notice the inconsistencies. You will feel the dissonance. You will know when something is off.
i can't be your peace if you're not providing the environment for me to provide the peace. stop expecting from a woman you constantly giving problems, challenges and you're not providing a safe space for me. peace is present where security is found.
let people reintroduce themselves to you, even your closest friends. let them reintroduce their hobbies, dreams, and soul. familiarity shouldn't be a cage. love them for who they are now, not just who they were then.
Why does it feel like every girl has to unlock the narcissist, the avoidant, and the warlock before the healthy relationship? 😭
So… what level are y’all on?