dear_itohan

I'm trying to figure it out.
✨konibaje baby❤

[dear_itohan @readwithITee]

I ask nothing of you, Itohan, but to always remember who you are, and what things you are capable of.

[Jae @miss_joxy]

I ask nothing of you, Jae, but to always remember who you are, and what things you are capable of.

[dear_itohan @readwithITee]

The first red flag was actually 'we are looking for a wife for him'.

[Jennifer_Enyadike🇳🇬🇨🇦 @JennyEnya]

After returning home from (NYSC), I was surprised to learn that a friend of my dad was looking for a wife for his nephew. My dad assured them that he wouldn’t pressure me into anything because he wanted me to meet them so I could make my own decision.

One afternoon, I went to cash a check for my dad. When I returned to his office, I saw him with that friend. He introduced me, and the man started talking about his nephew. He described him as a good man, a lecturer, and someone who doesn’t womanize. They were looking for a wife for him.

I asked this man about his nephew’s age, and he said he was 37. That was my first red flag, since I was 23 at the time. With my dad’s permission, they set a date for us to meet. I thought it was going to be a date, but instead, he took me to his nephew’s house.

When we arrived, his uncle introduced me, then excused us to talk. We chatted for a while, and I got to ask him a few questions.

To cut the long story short, he said he wouldn’t allow me to wear leggings or trousers because they’re too revealing, and he expected me to stay home and raise the kids. He believes women shouldn’t work after marriage.

He made a bunch of sexist comments about what women should and shouldn’t do. What really bothered me was his constant bragging about renting a two-bedroom apartment because he was ready to settle down.

After that whole meeting, I told my dad I wasn’t interested. When his uncle kept insisting my dad told him to stop, that my mind was already made up!
There were so many things I didn’t know or understand then, but one thing I knew was I wasn’t going to be with a controlling man who was going to dictate what my life should be.

[dear_itohan @readwithITee]

The Cvr INEC site is completely trash. Probably intentionally making it difficult so people don't get their PVCs because what in the JavaScript is this website??? Are you kidding??

[dear_itohan @readwithITee]

Six years ago, i filled 5kg gas cylinder for 1,500
Today, it's 11,000

On this mandate you are standing?

First old national anthem.
Now people are going back to charcoal.

Stand oo.. You'll soon fall.

[dear_itohan @readwithITee]

Please watch the movie.. It's hilarious. It was showing men the way they acted.. Roles reversed.

[MumZee✨🇳🇬 @_DebbieOA]

A feminist wrote this movie😂

[dear_itohan @readwithITee]

@LummyLawrence Leave Celine Dion out of this 😅

[Omo Kogi (Yagba) 🌍 @harrysone9]

If this pops up on your TL, repost it; it costs you zero naira.

[dear_itohan @readwithITee]

@rumiiihere 2018 and 2022.

[dear_itohan @readwithITee]

To have and to hold.. From this day forward.. Till death do us part.

Now I ask you. Do you know how to hold what you have?

[dear_itohan @readwithITee]

To HAVE and To HOLD.
A thread 📕
I never truly understood the meaning of this until yesterday after watching a stand up comedy performance by a man named Mark.

What does it mean to have? Let me give an illustration. Say, you have a phone. It's yours.

[dear_itohan @readwithITee]

definitely replace it (them).

We need to restore our capacity to hold. To endure. To hold one another, and ourselves for the sake of the love that we claim to share.

Now, I understand that it is not just enough to have, it is important to build the capacity to hold. TOGETHER.

[Enomfon Akpan @mydearenomfon]

THE MONOLOGUE
(A person. Alone. Talking to someone who is no longer there.)

I keep forgetting. That’s the thing nobody warned me about. I’ll be doing something completely normal, eating, or washing plates, or just sitting and for one second I forget. I actually forget and then I remember again and the remembering is worse than the forgetting.

Every single time.
(beat)

I picked up my phone yesterday to call you. I had the phone in my hand, I was already thinking about what I was going to say and then I remembered.

Just like that.

I put the phone down and I sat there and I thought, how long is this going to keep happening? How long before my body understands what my head already knows?

(beat)

People keep telling me you’re in a better place. I don’t care about a better place.
I care about this place, I care about here. You were supposed to be here.

[dear_itohan @readwithITee]

Michael has come to STAY at Omoni Oboli's production. I love it.

Well done mamma. How can I join your production? Do you organize auditions or just audacious applications?

[Omoni Oboli @Omonioboli]

We are finally live besties 🎉💃🏻💝 SECRETS OF THE HEART now showing on Omoni Oboli Drama Tv https://t.co/3abgMuE4Dk