@deserve33335285@BekerFisher (i say this to mean there was no reason to "test" me or whatever in case it looks like it doesnt have much to do with the subject, i've been living as a guy since i was 13 and these experiences happened at 16-17, so 3-4 years after social transition)
@deserve33335285@BekerFisher the therapists in question all met me thinking i was a c1s male (my name in like the system of the clinic i went to was my actual name not my deadname) and therefore knew i lived as a guy already and had been for years at that point
@Cherrycanndy yea i know lmao i do have an endo now and he's great, just took years of searching to find him. once again im not saying give up on the medical system forever just that people shouldnt let it hold them back
@Cherrycanndy i just dont think this is helpfull rhetoric or worth repeating over and over in every single discussion about diy at a time where trans people are losing acess to healthcare more and more and doctors frequently misdose us
@deserve33335285@BekerFisher yes its ok if people struggle with doubt and im not arguing against therapy, but you're speaking as if thats the universal experience and figuring out if you need hrt or not is super complicated and can only be known for sure after therapy, which is not the case
@Cherrycanndy no one's saying that you should never ever see a doctor or do any research before you diy. its about how if you do not have acess to good doctors that doesnt have to stop you from transitioning
@deserve33335285@BekerFisher man the whole point is about how often times people cannot "consult doctors first" or are not treated well when they try and how that shouldn't stop people from having acess to life medication
@deserve33335285@BekerFisher if you cannot be truly sure of who you are without someone else telling you then yes it might be a you a problem. i do believe that gender dysphoria is necessary for being trans but i knew i had it long before i ever talked to a doctor about it
@deserve33335285@BekerFisher i started hrt after 7 years of knowing i needed it and only managed to finally do it through diy. i never needed to hear "dont rush it" i needed acess to medical care
@deserve33335285@BekerFisher also "make sure you really need it, think abt it, dont rush etc" are statements that annoy me a lot bc theyre almost always directed at people who Have thought long and hard about it so they come across as condescending rather than concerned. +
@Cherrycanndy being against diy an advocating for a process where doctors judge whether or not someone should get hrt is in line with transmedicalism yes
@BekerFisher you're speaking as if a doctor is immediatly going to know what a person needs better than themselves. you're falling for fear mongering about diy. the whole the whole thing about "being happy in your orginal body" being said to dysphoric people comes across as very terfy
back when I was a teenager in a bunch of fandoms I always felt a little... Weird when I saw ppl that Always made whoever they considered the bottom of their fav ships ftm and Only ever the bottom but I was scared of talking about it being called transphobic lmao