In a recent interview, Zendaya admitted that when she and Tom Holland first started dating, she didn’t think he was the man for her and she went back to dating Jacob elordi.
“I loved how kind and steady he was, but part of me felt he was too soft… too safe,” she said. “I thought I needed someone more intense. So I went back to my ex Jacob elordi he was more of the man I wanted.
I later realised Tom had always been the real man. Consistent. Kind. Someone you can actually settle with and build a life around.”
Getting back together, she added, felt like coming home. “Sometimes you have to leave the right person to understand why they were right all along.”
As you get older as a woman, the things you value in a man start to shift. It’s not really about the finest man, the best dressed, or the one flashing the most money anymore. it’s about the man who’s thoughtful. The one who picks up dinner when he knows it’s been a long day for both of y’all. The helpful man who washes the dishes after you cook & helps fold the clothes without being asked. The man who sees something around the house needs fixing & just handles it. The family man who wants to plan bbq’s at the park, take little adventures, & actually build a life together. The gentle, patient type of man who brings peace instead of chaos. Life really too short to settle for anything less. 🫶🏽
Get you a woman who really understands life for real. Because a lot of these females be lil girls in grown-woman positions. A real woman knows what priorities look like rent, bills, responsibility… no excuses, no shortcuts. She understands life ain’t always easy, but she see the vision and knows how to move toward the goal. Having someone who can THINK, PLAN, and EXECUTE with you, that’s rare. Not just cute pics and a good front for Facebook I’m talking about real drive, real mindset, real hustle. It’s hard finding a woman like that nowadays, but if you do...Keep her close. Cause there’s a whole lot of pretty bums out here. 💯
an elderly man was once asked how he managed to stay married for over 50 years. his answer was unexpectedly blunt: "there were many mornings where I woke up, looked at my wife, and didn't feel a single spark of romance. i was tired, or she was irritable, or life was simply heavy."
when asked if that lack of "feeling" worried him, he shook his head.
"i didn't marry a feeling," he explained. "i married a human being. On the days the feeling went missing, i simply worked harder to serve her. i made the coffee exactly how she liked it.
i listened to her stories even if I’d heard them a dozen times. i chose to act like a man in love until the feeling decided to show back up."
i learned the same lesson from my father and the men in my community : real love isn't something you find; it's something you build when you’d rather be doing something else.

I like a man who miss me, wanna see me, blow my phone up about his day, and be obsessed with me in a GOOD WAY, If you nonchalant, inconsistent, or unromantic stay where u at