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[No filter Skin @NoFilterSkin]

You cannot:

​Work full time, raise children, keep a spotless home, show up fully in your marriage, maintain friendships, stay fit, build wealth, read books, pursue hobbies, serve only home cooked meals, answer every email, and still make the 3:30 school pickup.

​That standard was created to keep you exhausted and blaming yourself. Let it go.

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@SpinesandZee28 It would have been nice to have flexibility.. my husband was coming from overseas and we have a limited set of dates to choose from.. ended up with PMS on my wedding day :)))

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@SavLovesSwift I specifically got flat rings with all the stones incased shut so I wouldn't worry about them falling off !!

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@BellaBaddie__ Birthday- anne marie

[positivity moon @arrtnem]

On paper it is gorgeous. Two toothbrushes in one cup. Tiny socks on the radiator. Someone whose face you know in the dark reaching for you at 3:12 and not leaving. A small person with your eyes and their laugh eating cereal too slowly before school. It sounds like the closest thing to safety we have ever invented.

But a lot of people did not grow up watching love look like that. They grew up watching marriage be a war that never declared itself out loud. 19:40 on a Tuesday, plates not quite slammed, voices just quiet enough for the neighbors not to hear. A father sleeping on the couch for three years. A mother doing the emotional admin for five people and getting a wilted bouquet once a year as a receipt. The child learns quickly that forever can be a threat as easily as it is a promise.

You say mini mes. A lot of people hear smaller witnesses. Witnesses to debt. To screaming in the car park. To one parent disappearing for six months and calling it adjusting. Some bodies carry the memory of being the kid who held the camera and took the Christmas photo where nobody spoke to each other for two days after. They do not crave that house. They crave never putting anyone through it.

There is another layer no one likes talking about because it sounds too practical for a sacred topic. Mortgage rates that bite. Groceries that feel like a test. Friends burning out in two jobs and still wondering if they can afford a dentist, не те що дитину. Bodies that already wake tired. The idea of bringing in a small, breakable person is not just cute to them. It is a spreadsheet with red numbers and a nervous system that shakes.

And then there are the ones who were never told they were allowed to want something for themselves first. To them, choosing no partner and no kids for now is not selfishness. It is the first act of self parenting. It is finally learning to feed the part of them that was always the one doing the caretaking. They are not missing the desire. Sometimes they are surgically removing the compulsion put in them by a culture that treated women as wombs and men as wallets.

Some people hear spouse and feel warmth. Others hear spouse and feel a hand closing over their life. Some people look at a child and feel their chest widen. Others look at their own sleep schedule, their own untreated trauma, their own rage in traffic and think not yet, not like this. That is not nihilism. That is responsibility. The bravest thing some people will ever do is break the chain by not adding another link.

Marriage and children can be the most beautiful thing. They can also be the most efficient way to hide from yourself. It is easy to call it forever if you have never sat with your own loneliness without a witness. It is easy to say mini me if you have not yet met the parts of you that should not be replicated without serious editing. Many people want to arrive to that altar and that nursery with less unprocessed violence in their hands. That takes time. That looks from the outside like drifting.

If you are lucky enough to want it and still be soft when you picture it, hold that gently. Do not turn your hunger into a ruler you hit others with. The world has given plenty of reasons to be afraid of binding contracts and tiny hearts. Climate, war, courts, childhood bedrooms where love was conditional on performance. Not everyone has healed enough to gamble a child on their hope.

Ask people what they want under all the noise. Some will say a partner and kids. Some will say a room, a dog, three good friends and work that feels honest. Some will say I do not know yet, I was never given space to ask. The distance is not as far as it looks. Everyone is hunting the same thing under different packaging. A place where their nervous system can stop scanning the door. A hand that stays. A tomorrow that is not a threat.

You can stand in your dream of spouse and children without needing the whole planet to agree.

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@heyshipz Bridge connecting Asia and Europe from my flight yesterday

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@mcflurry_slut This is sherry, she would love to know the specifics of her coat

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@Awakenjp It's so sad seeing this place turn into Facebook :(

[tern @1goodtern]

If Covid infections caused harm to the immune system like weakening immune surveillance and dysregulation of T cell balance, making it harder to keep old viruses in check, then you'd expect to see some things.

Things.
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@dussyme 3452839

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@ffatihkucuk iki kedi olmaz mı

[BirdieBittern @BirdieBittern]

Covid experts in the EU are urging people to start wearing face masks again as cases soar across the UK causing spikes in cases & hospital admissions

Experts stressed that wearing a face mask can significantly help curb the transmission of all viruses

https://t.co/cK2zaj1mFZ

[Assal Rad @AssalRad]

Seems important, so obviously there’s no media coverage.

[BeREn'cE @berooo_24]

Sevgi adı altında çocuğun ömrünü çalan anne..Tam Türk anneleri ve oğullarını anlatıyor 🫰

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@glencystore 🌞

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Türkiye'de böyle güzel mutfaklı 1+1 bir ev yok ....

[Pop Base @PopBase]

Over 400 artists and indie labels have removed their music from Israel as part of the newly-launched ‘No Music For Genocide’ movement.

🔗: https://t.co/qkkOrA1Ktp

[SO? @noor_supernova7]

telling you with a broken heart. I have been diagnosed with malnutrition due to lack of food. My body is gradually collapsing. Yes, I am hungry and I cannot buy food.

If you’re scrolling, PLEASE leave a dot . it's just a dot.

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The year is 2019, my husband has a full time physical job, working 46+ hrs a week on his feet all day and still has energy to do other stuff and go out on weekends.
Since 2020, one decline and another, #longCovid has taken all his energy and left him frail and weak. Wear a mask

[JWeiland @JPWeiland]

This is the most heartbreaking thing I've read in some time💔

Poor woman has severe long covid, and her own family appeared to not appreciate the seriousness.

She passed the next day from her disease. Please believe people when they tell you what they're going through.