@BaileyisBratty Exactly part of the point I was trying to make but idiots like to pick and choose what they read and make their own narrative and assumptions.
If you as a sub are DMing vanilla girls on social media (who arenโt Dommes), to send money to, youโre a predator.
Stop bringing unwilling & non-consenting people into your kink so you can take advantage of them because they donโt know any better. Disgusting.
@addictedtoaliza Thanks for sharing! Of course it can be a way for someone to discover the industry, but the intention behind it isnโt always consensual nor sincere.
A lot of you are missing the point entirely. This has nothing to do with jealousy or gatekeeping findom. How tf did you get that from me talking about involving people in your kink who havenโt consented to it?
This is about subs deliberately seeking out vanilla women who arenโt involved in or familiar with the kink. Findom is a fetish, and participating in a kink dynamic requires informed consent and an understanding of what youโre agreeing to.
Some men who call themselves โsubsโ intentionally target vanilla women because they donโt understand the fetish or the dynamics involved. They can send a measly $10, receive endless praise for it, and exploit that lack of experience under the guise of being โgenerous.โ
Others do it because they want to mold an inexperienced woman into their ideal version of a โDomme,โ controlling the dynamic to suit their own fantasies.. which is topping from the bottom.
If someone wants to genuinely explore findom, all the power to her. Thereโs plenty of real subs and money to go around. Some women will stay, some wonโt, and thatโs for them to discover on their own terms.
But deliberately targeting women because theyโre unfamiliar with your fetish isnโt generosity. Itโs manipulation.
Consenting to receive money is not automatically consenting to participate in your kink.
@J701981141168 Good point. However thereโs a difference between participating in a kink consensually and the consequences of someoneโs participation of that kink being a third party. Iโm sessioning with the husband whoโs making an active choice to participate and not the wife.