Sibling abuse is a severely under acknowledged Adverse Childhood Experience. When parents are not fully present, more powerful siblings often get away with abusing less powerful ones. TY @nate_postlethwt for amplifying this issue.
It’s not sibling rivalry when one sibling always has all the power and the other sibling is always left hurting. That’s sibling abuse hidden as sibling rivalry.
I stand against pedophilia, sex trafficking, child abuse, and the celebrities using children as their play toys. Sorry if you don't like that. Our children are our future. They deserve a chance instead of having their innocence taken away by the likes of Epstein and Diddy and all of who took part in destroying them. Shame on them. I hope they get what they deserve. No compassion, just like you showed those children.
For last ~ 10k psychopathy/patriarchy has ruled. All of our literature, stories, philosophical ideas, definitions, languages and every other part of human culture has been made in their image. True non-patriarchal/psychopathic nurturing (which is different than patriarchal 1/2
Prediction:
Rates of #domesticabuse#coercivecontrol are going to rise MASSIVELY.
Why?
It has become more socially acceptable to be antagonistic, pugnacious, obnoxious and defend it as ‘free speech’.
We now live in a world that is more trauma-inducing than trauma-informed.
@JacklenaB That’s exploitation and abandonment on a whole other level. It’s tough to be a kid in those circumstances. I wish there was something we could do to protect those coming behind us. We survived, but at what cost? What might we have been able to do with good childhoods? 🫂💙😩
The world is full of narcissists. Those who are actually narcissistic and those who the narcissist calls narcissist when challenging their narcissism. What a world! This is the result of misogyny in real time.
The false ideal of family has way too much influence over us. If people are good to and for you, embrace them. If they’re not, discard them. Regardless of DNA. It’s so hard to purge family connections, but for many, it’s salvation. Be loyal to and honour yourself. You are worthy.
We need to change the narrative around family. For a lot of people, family has been the most heartbreaking experience they’ve had. To suggest they owe them loyalty is to dismiss what their mind and body went through and still carries. Family isn’t everything. There’s much more.
Kids in dysfunctional homes spend much of their time feeling responsible for the adults actions. The value of having boundaries as an adult is recognizing you're not responsible for others inappropriate behavior. It's protecting yourself the way you couldn't when you were a kid.
People aren’t only healing from trauma they endured. They’re healing from the life they lived in survival mode. They’re healing from the judgement of how they think and feel. They’re healing from the grief of what could’ve been had they never been traumatized to begin with.
If you have an avoidant attachment style, I'd recommend being wary of any advice in the direction of 'white knuckle your way through commitment.' This may appease the anxious parties in your life (which is fine if that's your end goal) but it isn't the same thing as healing.
We are capable of being healthy humans. We just need to have our needs met accurately during development. Without that, chaos results. The inundation of the effects is intensifying. I’m hopeful it will finally inspire positive transformation, although the evidence seems contrary
It has been known for quite sometime, first theorized in the 1960’s, with ample substantive evidence in the 2010’s onward, that male infants are extremely vulnerable, from a biological developmental perspective, to neglect (no constant nurturing/regulation). The impact to the 1/2
When you’re down about the fact that trauma Rewires the Brain, and is Stored in the Body, I want you to remember:
Healing Rewires the Brain, too
and our body IS designed to help us self-heal.
While trauma is egregious, it’s work-with-able. Baby steps add up -Dr. Jen