@coloradowidower@ErinD199@MeghanEMurphy Fine. Don’t take my advice or life experience. My wife wants me and chooses me. We’re happier than ever, so I really don’t give a shit what you think. Nonetheless, as a parting gift, I encourage you to check out GS Youngblood. Good luck. https://t.co/LIsUDPg6gH
@coloradowidower@ErinD199@MeghanEMurphy It’s not about bringing chores and labor into it. It’s about taking stress off her. If she’s thinking about dirty dishes, guess what she’s not thinking about? Your dick.
@AnswersToElon@MeghanEMurphy He probably also gets reactive and defensive and doesn’t provide any kind of leadership. Probably doesn’t try to facilitate any kind of connection. He probably has great intentions, but that’s not enough. Men aren’t taught how to navigate these things, unfortunately.
I’m not perpetuating that idea. The reality is that if you take it on yourself as if you are the one who does all the work, she’ll intuitively rise to the occasion and put forth effort herself. My marriage was on the verge of collapse and I saw this happen. Now we’re in a better place than we ever have been. Focus on what you can control. That’s masculine leadership 101.
@SmokeEmUp138@ErinD199@MeghanEMurphy You need to read “Masculine in Relationship” by GS Youngblood. It completely changed my marriage. Sometimes we’re fucking up as men without realizing it. We also don’t realize how much power we have to change everything in our marriage by recognizing and correcting these things.
You may not like this Greg, but she’s right. I used to have a dynamic where my wife would bang me, but it was often out of obligation. I didn’t like that, so I went through the process of trying to reinvigorate her desire. It all started with operating from my masculine core, fostering connection, and removing stress from her. Before long, she was the one initiating sex, and it wasn’t out of obligation anymore. It was because she wanted it.
@moreAvoda@MeghanEMurphy Agreed. I’ll also add that as a man, everything you do is foreplay, not just stuff you do in the bedroom. A woman requires a safe and connective environment to feel desire. Also, some of the biggest things are being grounded and steady, non-defensive and non-reactive.