The most passionate and heated romances contain secrets between the couple.
These secrets create a deep, private bond between them that nobody else understands.
And the more 'taboo' the secrets, the tighter the bond.
Without these dangerous secrets, a couple is no more than just friends or co-parents.
To start creating these secrets, you have to live a little.
Okay but imagine this:
A vacation together. Cute little Polaroids of when we go out, kisses in scenic spots. Candids of each other just because. All for a little vacation scrapbook.
And then when we get back to the hotel, snapshots of all the naughty things we get up to in the middle of the night. Two copies of every shot, one for each of us.
Memories to go back to when we need each other a little extra but aren’t physically together.
I need this.
I don’t know why guys are so resistant to this advice, but: DRESS WELL!
I have been dressing well since I was in junior high.
Coincidentally(?), girls have been chasing me since I was in junior high.
I go out with guys dressed less well than me, and even if I don’t say much the girls come and talk to me and flirt with me, and everyone asks why they keep gravitating to me.
Even when I outright tell guys, “Hey man, you should dress up more. It makes a difference,” it often falls on deaf ears.
The thing is, it is not just hot women who respond better to you.
It is EVERYONE:
• Other men treat you with more respect and defer to you more
• Service staff go above and beyond to serve you better
• Police, bouncers, and other ‘enforcer’ types are more courteous
You just ACROSS THE BOARD get treated like someone MORE IMPORTANT.
“The clothes make the man.”
People don’t say it anymore but it hasn’t stopped being true.
If you dress like you’re important, people treat you like you’re important.
To any guy who wonders why he doesn’t get the respect he deserves, who ever feels like he isn’t being deferred to enough, who feels like women look right past him:
Try going out dressed like a million bucks a few times.
Talk to people confidently while you’re dressed that way.
I guarantee people treat you better.
You might even come to find you LIKE dressing like a guy who is ‘kind of a big deal’!
The best people are all just maxed out
Beautiful. Successful. Ripped. Kind. Funny. Caring. Thoughtful. Fun as fuck. Romantic. Artistic. Ambitious.
Wanna know why?
It’s the way they approach life. They do it all, which is why they have it all
Women like bad boys.
Even in Neolithic Europe, hunter-gatherer bad boys were picking up girls off their safe & stable farm lives.
Those farm girls could’ve lived nice, safe lives with farm boys, but they ran off to Britain with hunters.
Be the exciting guy, not the safe guy.
There is a certain type of person everywhere now, especially online.
He consumes endless information every day: philosophy, psychology, productivity, spirituality, neuroscience, business, self-improvement, history.
He knows a little about everything and deeply experiences almost nothing.
His entire identity becomes built around understanding instead of living.
He watches videos about confidence instead of speaking confidently. Reads about discipline instead of becoming disciplined. Studies relationships instead of learning how to love. Consumes motivational content instead of taking action.
He feels intelligent because he is constantly mentally stimulated. But stimulation is not transformation.
Most of the time, knowledge becomes emotional protection. Reality is unpredictable. Reality humiliates. Reality exposes weakness. Books and ideas do not.
Inside information, he can continue imagining himself as intelligent, deep, insightful, different from ordinary people. So he remains trapped in preparation.
He constantly feels as if he is "becoming" someone, while his real life remains strangely untouched. He develops sophisticated language for problems he never confronts directly. He can explain human behavior beautifully while being unable to handle ordinary discomfort, rejection, uncertainty, loneliness, or risk.
He slowly turns life into observation instead of participation.
The internet rewards this personality heavily. He receives validation for sounding aware rather than becoming capable.
Eventually, he begins confusing self-analysis with growth and information with wisdom.
But beneath the intelligence usually exists the same thing: fear. Fear of failure. Fear of embarrassment. Fear of reality answering back.
Because action destroys fantasy. The moment he truly acts, he can no longer hide inside potential.
So . . . The last few guys I’ve talked to, I asked if they liked kisses on their chest or stomach. And I kid you not, they told me they don’t normally get kisses in either spot, so they don’t know. I asked about their sides. Same response.
They told me they didn’t really get kissed that much between the neck and crotch area.
The amount of sorrow I felt. Like why are we being stingy with kisses? I will kiss every part of your body. Every fucking inch. I will lick and bite. Please 😩
Kai, and I really wanted to find my way back into her lips, alas she asked for money cos she is broke.
It was wonderful while it lasted. May she be well.