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[ria @riacharboneau]

Our attitude matters more in witness than winning an argument.

[Brady Shearer @BradyShearer]

I asked you all:

“What’s one thing that frustrates you about church comms?” 😡

Here were the most popular answers:

7. The lack of risk taking and defaulting to the same old comfortable and easy thing

6. Most people care about *doing* the thing than being *effective* at the thing

5. Too many events to talk about

4. Pastors/staff not understanding how long stuff takes

3. People complain there isn’t enough info & they complain when there’s “too much”

2. People who are not in comms thinking they know best

And the most popular (and aggravating) response:

1. Last Minute Requests 😅

Anything get missed?

[Lysa TerKeurst @LysaTerKeurst]

You’re not who people say you are. You’re not who social media says you are. You’re not who the scale says you are.

You’re who GOD says you are. And He says you're loved. He says you are held. He says You're His.

Forever His.

[ria @riacharboneau]

Want to share for future reference when we host our food banks. Good to know.

[Fara Kaufman @justfara]

So, I spoke to people getting food at a food bank and here are some things I learned from those in need:
1. Everyone donates Kraft Mac and Cheese in the box. They can rarely use it because it needs milk and butter which is hard to get from regular food banks.
2. Boxed milk is a treasure, as kids need it for cereal which they also get a lot of.
3. Everyone donates pasta sauce and spaghetti noodles.
4. They cannot eat all the awesome canned veggies and soup unless you put a can opener in too or buy pop tops.
5. Oil is a luxury but needed for Rice a-Roni which they also get a lot of.
6. Spices or salt and pepper would be a real Christmas gift.
7. Tea bags and coffee make them feel like you care.
8. Sugar and flour are treats.
9. They fawn over fresh produce donated by farmers and grocery stores.
10. Seeds are cool in Spring and Summer because growing can be easy for some.
11. They rarely get fresh meat.
12. Tuna and crackers make a good lunch.
13. Hamburger Helper goes nowhere without ground beef.
14. They get lots of peanut butter and jelly but usually not sandwich bread.
15. Butter or margarine is nice too.
16. Eggs are a real commodity.
17. Cake mix and frosting makes it possible to make a child’s birthday cake.
18. Dishwashing detergent is very expensive and is always appreciated.
19. Feminine hygiene products are a luxury and women will cry over that.
20. Everyone loves Stove Top Stuffing.

In all the years I have donated food at the Holidays, I bought what I thought they wanted, but have never asked. I am glad I did. If you are helping a Family this Christmas, maybe this can help you tailor it more. It does for me!

[ria @riacharboneau]

learning how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day is an underrated power.

Cultivate that.
Renew your mind.
Take thoughts captive.

[🐢 @turtlebreezee]

As you heal...the people pleasing goes out the door

[Lysa TerKeurst @LysaTerKeurst]

We don’t have to know all the details. We don’t have to know the whys and the hows. But we can trust Jesus will accomplish His purpose. Even if our circumstances aren’t good, His purpose always is.

Oh Lord, give us relief from our unbelief.

[ria @riacharboneau]

It’s okay if you thought you were over it but it hits you all over again. It’s okay to fall apart even after you thought you had it under control. You are not weak. Healing is messy. And there is no timeline for healing.

[ria @riacharboneau]

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[Luke Simmons @lukedsimmons]

Good questions emerging about church announcements.

We only announce if:

1. It impacts 50%+ of church
2. It’s especially related to vision
3. It’s the next step for new people

Most stuff never gets stage announced. Have to set expectations & endure leaders’ disappointment.

[ria @riacharboneau]

Ever emptied your trash bin only to NOT see your “downloaded” item in your harddrive?

Freak out. Pay $$$ on a recovery software.

ONLY TO FIND SAID DOWNLOADED FILES ON YOUR DESKTOP.

[ria @riacharboneau]

Add “throwing your back out” to the list of things that humble me.

I can’t do anything on my own.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

A true apology involves:
1. An acknowledgment of pain caused
2. How behavior will change in the future
3. Listening fully to how you’ve impacted someone

Have you gotten a true apology?

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

When you come out of survival mode, you might feel really angry.

Anger is your body coming back to life:

[🐢 @turtlebreezee]

As you heal...the people pleasing goes out the door

[ria @riacharboneau]

He's a "I don't care how far you've ran, just come home" kind of God.

[Lysa TerKeurst @LysaTerKeurst]

One of the best things we can say to a friend today? “I understand."

We all have hurts. We all need grace.

"I understand" says I'm no better than you, but together we're stronger. It's a loving & disarming admission that we're all in this together.

[ria @riacharboneau]

Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.

Choose to listen + understand today.

[ria @riacharboneau]

Prone to wander, Lord I feel it.