men need intimacy like women need reassurance. same need, different mechanic. he goes a week untouched and starts acting unhinged; she goes a few days unacknowledged and starts detaching silently. men fall apart without intimacy, women fall apart without consistency. no “gm,” no “home safe?”, no “I got you,” no “we good?”…and you expect softness out of that? be so serious. make her feel wanted and she’ll give her all; make her feel ignored and she’ll disappear like she was never there. reassurance is her pre-game. starve her emotionally and she’ll revoke your whole membership. men want attention, peace, loyalty, touch… but can’t send ONE message? boy, bffr. same need expressed differently. he wants touch, she wants consistency.
- Flowers must be a regular thing
- We must talk everyday
- Check in when you’re out (“just arrived”, “on my way home” etc)
- No exes that are friends
- Don’t move like a single man (online & outside)
- Plan dates (I hate a “we’ll see”)
We can't date casually. We can't casually have sex. There's nothing casual about being in my space. I'm a real lover.
There is nothing casual about my intimacy. There is nothing casual about my heart.