Unlearn shame. All kinds of shame: abuse, unemployment, sickness, vulnerability, longing, desire, mistakes, failures. You need not be ashamed of what you're feeling or living. Freedom and shame cannot coexist.
The kindest thing literature does is remind you that your peculiar little feelings have always existed. Someone, in some century, was equally confused by love, bored by society, tired of performing, and hungry for meaning.
Major cheat code for life: Learn to delay your reaction. Anger, fear, and impulse will try to make you move fast. There's power in pausing. In the pause, you see clearly, you respond wisely, and you avoid decisions you'll regret. Slow down to speed up.
I don't have anyone I would want to switch places with, so the attempt to shame me for things or traits I lack is humorous. I would never want to be like you, bro.
People mistake disdain for factual events or actions detailing a person's poor character or character flaws as hatred, and thatโs when you just have to be quiet.