Mrs. John-Alley

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[Mrs. John-Alley @RichZionQueen]

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[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Marriage can wear you out. It can make you look like you are 46 years old when in reality you are 36 years old.
Marriage can turn a model into an unhappy ogre
Marriage can take away the joy in a healthy soul and turn the soul into a bitter and sour one

I sat across a friend here in Accra for about three hours yeasterday
She has held on to her husband for thirteen years, which had very brief periods of happiness
She wanted to leave him two years ago, but he brought out his service pistol and was going to kill himself when she told him she was leaving
Everybody weighed in, we begged her to stay, and we begged him to change

She stayed, but he didn't change
He was in the army, rose quickly through the ranks, but he had a weakness for certain kinds of ladies
It was as if he were determined to die young and of some terrible disease
In the last five years, his wife, who is a pediatrist, has suffered from several kinds of infections that only God knows how she is still alive

She sent me pictures of some gory green discharges once.
How anything like that could come out of a person, and the person did not pack her bags and run as far as her legs could carry her, is still a wonder to me.
I believe in marriage, but my "For better, for worse" vow ends at the point where my partner begins to tirelessly plot and work hard at ensuring that my death will do us part.

He has bought her a car, a house and sponsored her on four trips outside of the country with the children.
I consider him a friend and a brother.
He, however, does not understand what marriage is; he wants to sleep with "dirty infected ladies" who are way beneath his class because they treat him like a demigod.

He sees his wife as his equal, and he is not sexually attracted to someone on the same level as him.
Most of the time, he finds it difficult to sleep with her. When they finally have sex, after she has begged and threatened, she almost always ends up with an infection

He would promise to do better, but he seemed unable to do better.
She was way above his status when he asked her out and married her
She was the prized stallion, but he wanted to keep her as an artefact in his museum of great achievements while sleeping with ladies who were more at his level.

She turned 36 on April 23, 2026. A mother of two biological sons and one adopted daughter.
She still does his laundry, makes his food, waits on him as the love of her life
She said he moved out of their room two months ago because she saw genital warts all over him and cringed.

He is 45. A businessman who recently resigned from the Army and a lost soul who does not know how to find his way back into his wife's arms were as easy as making a decision to pay attention to her and the children for the next six months.
Stay at home when he is not working, cut off all ties with his other women, and care for her in a sincere way.
Rebuild the bond they once shared while taking deliberate actions to rid himself of the STD he picked up in the course of his misadventures

His wife has decided to give him six months' notice before leaving with the children. She has informed his father and his family of her need to separate from him, and his father had asked her to give him six months to work on his son.

She said she is sure he would never change. I asked her why. She said, "He lives for the validation of others and would sleep with someone who has HIV willingly if the person says, 'So you won't sleep with me because I am sick, are you not supposed to be loving and kind to me?"

She said she noticed his people-pleasing behaviour since the time they were courting. She said she would want to go somewhere, and the girlfriend of his friend would want to go to another place. He would prioritise his friend's girlfriend over her and leave her stranded while catering to his friend's girlfriend so that the friend and his girlfriend can call him a good, selfless man.

She said she felt he had a kind heart at the time because he put others before himself.
She said she and another friend of his had their children around the same period.
One day, she left him at home with their baby, and when she returned home, she found the baby being watched by a fourteen-year-old neighbour.
When her husband returned home, he told her that his friend couldn't get a babysitter, so he left his own child with another child to watch him while he went over to babysit for his friend.

She said that has always been the pattern.

She mentioned how the family would need something, and a friend would need something, and he would take the money meant to fix the family's need and give it out to his friend.
She said she took a loan of twenty thousand dollars from work and handed the money to him to pay off a debt they owed, but he gave the money to his uncle, who called him and asked for financial assistance to marry a third wife.

She made me see how dangerous it is to get married to a people pleaser.
A man who would give everything to impress an outsider while his own affairs are in tatters.
She said he does not want her to leave the marriage, but he does not know how to cut off his friends and girlfriends because he hates to displease people.

She said he would willingly hurt himself to please others, and now that she is married to him, hurting himself also translates to hurting her and the children.

It is obvious that she still loves him and is willing to work with him on the marriage if he would man up and do the needful to keep his home.

In my opinion, he is a very weak man. Weak men do cruel things.
If you see a man hurting little children and small animals. If you see a man who likes to hurt women and abuse teenagers. It is a serious indication of weakness.
Men who hurt things and people who can't fight back are weak.
What they are doing to things that can't fight back is called cruelty.
Jeffrey Epstein was a very weak man, and so were those who travelled to his island to torture young girls.

A man who would rather hurt himself and harm his family to please others is a weak man who thrives on public validation or affirmation.

My fingers are crossed on the issue.

I told her I would have left the marriage long ago if I were in her shoes. If only to destroy the facade of a good life her husband was projecting, and force him to rebuild with me or move on to someone else.

Love, however, affects those who feel it very differently from the way it affects those of us who are watching the drama from the outside.

-GSW-

[John Bevere @JohnBevere]

God still speaks through dreams and visions, but not every image that enters the mind is from Him. Some dreams bring direction. Others bring clarity. And some are tactics the enemy uses to stir fear and distraction. Discernment is what makes the difference.

In today’s Conversations episode, Lisa and I talk through how to recognize when a dream is from the Lord and when the enemy is attempting to plant worry. We look at examples from Scripture and share practical steps that have helped us respond with faith, prayer, and wisdom.

If you want to grow in spiritual sensitivity and better understand how God communicates, this conversation will strengthen you.

Tune in and learn how to respond when God speaks through dreams and visions here: https://t.co/E96p3Cmqa1

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[African Hub @AfricanHub_]

"Why should someone print paper and hand them over to Africa and require us to pay back, not with another paper but our resources? I have come to the realization that this is an act of modern slavery and colonization."

~ Paul Kagame

[Mrs. John-Alley @RichZionQueen]

@Stansbaby Oh no. Condolences dear...

[LIMOBLAZE OMO JESU @Limoblaze]

Don’t let Hollywood raise your kids.

[CM - The Torch Bearer ❤️‍🔥 @Calebmusicc]

Why is it that most of the marriage prep material is for women?

So men we no go prepare for marriage too???

[ADEWUYI Roseline Adebimpe @AdewuyiRoseline]

Reading some quotes here. So pathetic!

Those who maintain proper examination ethics are not wicked humans.

All my exams from primary till Master's level, I can confidently say that I have never asked for nor responded to answers of exams in the examination hall.

[Mrs. John-Alley @RichZionQueen]

@Christoven_ @Limoblaze @whoiswoli Please who? Educate us 🤣🤣🤣

[Mrs. John-Alley @RichZionQueen]

@TekMayor @adarathexplorer 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Mrs. John-Alley @RichZionQueen]

@GiaMMacool Put Jesus first!

[Mrs. John-Alley @RichZionQueen]

@sola_adeisa @DrFeruke What about John 16:33 Ma? Psalm 34:19? 2 Cor 4:17? Proverbs 24:16? How about such scriptures Ma?

[Mrs. John-Alley @RichZionQueen]

@SaveYourSons Jesus is Lord!

[Heath | Uncommon Marriage, Family, and Wealth @CoachHeath_]

I read 30+ marriage books before I was 24 years old. I now have an on-fire marriage 25 years later.

Other guys played thousands of hours of video games by age 24.

They now know how to get to level 498 on almost any video game.

It matters how you spend your 20s.

[Zesty Naija @zestynaija]

@GbengaWemimo Back in uni days studying philosophy there is this quote I and my clique always find puzzling it goes thus " A whole is equal to the sum total of it's constituting parts but the sum total of all the parts may not make the whole"

[Fiyin Olubiyi @fiyinolubiyi]

No matter who asks this my answer will not change: if your faith matters to you, being with someone who does not share your faith with you will be a burden.

This applies to any religion really, but I’m writing to Christians.

[Mrs. John-Alley @RichZionQueen]

@lindsaylohan @NetflixFilm So happy for you Lindsay! So so happy for you!

[Fierce Marriage @FierceMarriage]

The true index of a man's character is the health of his wife.
Cyril Connolly

[Mrs. John-Alley @RichZionQueen]

@The_MMW Praying in tongues