Distance is not an apology.
If you hurt me, avoid accountability, then disappear, and pop up again “after enough time passes;” you are engaging in a cycle called reset-without-repair.
It is intentional, and it is not an apology.
Kindhearted people fall victim to this most often. We forgive easily, don’t hold grudges, and jump to assist those in need; no matter how horribly they may have treated us.
Don’t let your kindness be your downfall.
@libriscent People often confuse a reaction to mistreatment with the source of the problem. Setting a boundary after repeated violations is self-preservation.
I’ve learned that not everyone deserves an explanation. Some people have already decided who you are and no amount of words will change a mind that’s committed to misunderstanding you. People will question your silence, misread your intentions or create stories about your life without ever knowing the full picture. I’d rather spend my energy building the life I want than defending it. My peace is worth protecting and not every opinion deserves a response. Time has a way of revealing what’s real. So let people assume, talk and judge if they want. Keep growing, keep moving and let your life tell the story they’re too busy guessing.
not mad.
just disappointed because i told you multiple times how i feel about those things and you still choose to do the things i told you that affect me most
Getting yo shit together requires a deep level of honesty with yourself, you gotta be able to look at yourself in the mirror & be willing to accept flaws & behavior that's not allowing you to grow , self evaluation is difficult but it's extremely necessary.
Getting yo shit together requires a deep level of honesty with yourself, you gotta be able to look at yourself in the mirror & be willing to accept flaws & behavior that's not allowing you to grow , self evaluation is difficult but it's extremely necessary.
Let that attachment wear off and you realise it’s just a selfish person with an ego who wouldn’t communicate, is always avoidant, and plays the victim.