@DrDoyleSays I am glad i understand this now. I wish I had understood it as a young mom though. I was wrong because I didn’t understand. Grateful for processing, healing, forgiveness, gentleness, and accounts like yours:)
Please be wise about the things you choose to believe and share. If it stokes malice and hatred in your heart towards other people, chances are it was meant to do that rather than be truthful. Please be diligent in seeking out the truth.
Take care of yourself & talk to yourself like you would take care of & talk to a person or pet you desperately love.
If you wouldn't do or say it to them, you have no business doing or saying it to you.
North Carolina officials are begging MAGA to stop with their lies because it is crippling rescue operations.
MAGA doubles down.
Springfield, Ohio officials begged MAGA to stop with their lies because it was hurting the city.
MAGA doubled down.
MAGA knows they are hurting people and don't care.
We have to gain stability through healing what’s been traumatized inside us. We must do the healing work inside us so we can do relational work with others around us.
We weren't born knowing how to talk ourselves through tough moments. We were supposed to get coaching & modeling & holding to help us learn it. The fact that we didn't get that isn't our fault.
Learning it now-- without shame-- is the backbone of trauma & addiction recovery.
Shame masquerades as "useful" information. It pretends we "need" it, because otherwise we'd do "bad" things or become "bad" people. Thing is, that's not true-- many destructive people & behaviors thrive even while drowning in shame.
Shame is not a tool of recovery-- or victory.
Teaching children how to regulate their emotions is crime prevention.
It’s addiction prevention.
It’s the path to a world where people can disagree, and still respect each other.
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📚I’m writing a book📚
In the last 25 years, 40 million Americans have walked away from church. Most of these folks are not rejecting Jesus. They are rejecting the use of Jesus’ name for the purpose of domination and oppression. They aren’t even rejecting the Bible. They are rejecting hateful, harmful, exclusionary ways of reading it.
I’m convinced that rejection like this doesn’t make them unchristian—it makes them Christlike. Jesus himself famously chastised religious leaders who weaponized Scripture and elevated it above love of neighbor. He repeatedly denounced those who used the Bible to divide rather than unite, incite violence rather than make peace, and exclude rather than include.
I’m tired of pastors and Christian leaders wielding the Bible like a weapon. We need to do better. That’s why I’m writing this book.
To me, the difference that really makes the difference in realistic, sustainable trauma recovery is our commitment to NOT abandon ourselves. To NOT talk to or behave toward ourselves like our bullies & abusers did. To NOT starve ourselves.
To have our own back-- no matter what.
Richard Hays is LGBTQ+ affirming!
“God has already gone on ahead of our debates and expanded his grace to people of different sexualities.”
This is a big deal. Dr. Richard Hays is one the world’s leading New Testament scholars. He has written a new book alongside his son (Dr. Christopher Hays, a scholar and professor at Fuller Seminary) encouraging Christians to affirm our LGBTQ+ siblings just as God has.
This is a change from the chapter in his seminal work, The Moral Vision of the New Testament, in which he argued for a non-affirming sexual ethic.
At 75 years old, Hays could have easily chosen never to address his changing belief publicly or correct his earlier work. I’m so grateful he chose this brave path instead.