I used to believe that if I treated people with kindness, they would return it. But life taught me that people will be who they are, regardless of how gently you treat them. You can have a good heart and still be treated badly. That’s why, eventually, you learn to stop listening to promises and start paying attention to actions. People always reveal themselves through what they choose to do.
The older i get, the more i realize that someone making time for you is one of the clearest signs they care. Everyone is busy. Everyone has responsibilities and their own battles to fight. So when someone consistently chooses to spend their time with you, checks on you, and makes space for you in their life, it means something. time is one thing we can never get back, and people don't give it away lightly.
Sometimes I accidentally accept the bare minimum trying to be considerate of what others are going through & that is a habit I need to let go of expeditiously
You HAVE to enjoy life after you get off work or you gone feel like you slaving away. Like PLEASE go have drinks on a random Wednesday. YES do that beach picnic too. That’s right, go practice pottery on a Tuesday evening. That go to work, go home, go to work, go home shit is 0/10
I’m very adamant about not having people around who repeatedly disrupt my nervous system through their lack of care, empathy, and consideration. Get away from me.
I want to be loved without uncertainty. I want someone who's proud to choose me, who can't stop thinking about me and doesn't hide it. Someone who's excited to see me, tells their friends about me, and makes me feel wanted in every possible way. I want someone who desires me just as deeply as I desire them.
i'm sorry but sex will never be enough just for me to stick around. I need my soul fed. Spiritual growth. Deep conversations. Genuine effort. Emotional intelligence. Consistency.
Please raise your daughters to have hobbies, interests, and academics...so when they become adults and middle-aged women they have something to talk about besides a man.
I JUST HEARD SOMEONE SAY
"MAYBE YOU DON'T NEED MORE TIME TO HEAL, MAYBE YOU NEED MORE EXPERIENCES THAT SHOW YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM A DIFFERENT REALTY"
AND, YEAH.
A man's desire to become a father is always paid for by a woman with her body, her health, her career, and her freedom.
But when a woman expects a comfortable life, she is somehow shamed for wanting too much.