i think part of growing and taking accountability for past mistakes is also learning to accept that ppl don't automatically owe u their forgiveness for changing, that they're allowed to still hate u and that's fine bc life goes on.
HOT TAKE: refusing to acknowledge someone’s growth is unfair. if someone has taken accountability & has shown their change over time, continuing to define them exclusively by their past is not even “holding them accountable” anymore, you just want to personally harm them.