R CoDav

Reflect the change you want to see.
God-Life-Humanity-Purpose-Destiny

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

Live on This Day

[Taiwo_Ajakaye @dmightyangel]

EXCLUSIVE LIST IN THE 1999 CONSTITUTION

Many Need to be moved to Concurrent or Residual List...

A. The Concurrent List contains subjects that both the Federal Government and the State Governments have the power to make laws on.

B. The Residual List refers to all matters that are not explicitly mentioned in either the Concurrent List or the Exclusive List....That is, LGAs or State can determine that as they wish....

C. The Exclusive Legislative List in Nigeria refers to a specific set of subjects and powers reserved exclusively for the Federal Government....

The list focuses on matters of national importance like defence, foreign affairs, currency, and major infrastructure.

Read them:👇
1. Accounts of the Government of the Federation, and of offices, courts, and authorities thereof, including audit of those accounts.

2. Arms, ammunition and explosives.

3. Aviation, including airports, safety of aircraft and carriage of passengers and goods by air.

4. Awards of national titles of honour, decorations and other dignities.

5. Bankruptcy and insolvency.

6. Banks, banking, bills of exchange and promissory notes.

7. Borrowing of moneys within or outside Nigeria for the purposes of the Federation or of any State.

8. Census, including the establishment and maintenance of machinery for continuous and universal registration of births and deaths throughout Nigeria.

9. Citizenship, naturalisation and aliens.

10. Commercial and industrial monopolies, combines and trusts.

11. Construction, alteration and maintenance of such roads as may be declared by the National Assembly to be Federal trunk roads.

12. Control of capital issues.

13. Copyright.

14. Creation of States.

15. Currency, coinage and legal tender.

16. Customs and excise duties.

17. Defence.

18. Deportation of persons who are not citizens of Nigeria.

19. Designation of securities in which trust funds may be invested.

20. Diplomatic, consular and trade representation.

21. Drugs and poisons.

22. Election to the offices of President and Vice-President or Governor and Deputy Governor and any other office to which a person may be elected under this Constitution, excluding election to a local government council or any office in such council.

23. Evidence.

24. Exchange control.

25. Export duties.

26. External affairs.

27. Extradition.

28. Fingerprints identification and criminal records.

29. Fishing and fisheries other than fishing and fisheries in rivers, lakes, waterways, ponds and other inland waters within Nigeria.

30. Immigration into and emigration from Nigeria.

31. Implementation of treaties relating to matters on this list.

32. Incorporation, regulation and winding up of bodies corporate, other than co-operative societies, local government councils and bodies corporate established directly by any Law enacted by a House of Assembly of a State.

33. Insurance.

34. Labour, including trade unions, industrial relations; conditions, safety and welfare of labour; industrial disputes; prescribing a national minimum wage for the
Federation or any part thereof; and industrial arbitration.

35. Legal proceedings between Governments of States or between the Government of the Federation and Government of any State or any other authority or person.

36. Maritime shipping and navigation, including

(a) shipping and navigation on tidal waters;

(b) shipping and navigation on the River Niger and its affluents and on any such other inland waterway as may be designated by the National Assembly to be an international waterway or to be an inter-State waterway;

(c) lighthouses, lightships, beacons and other provisions for the safety of shipping and navigation;

(d) such ports as may be declared by the National Assembly to be Federal ports (including the constitution and powers of port authorities for Federal ports).

37. Meteorology.

38. Military (Army, Navy and Air Force) including any other branch of the armed forces of the Federation.

39. Mines and minerals, including oil fields, oil mining, geological surveys and natural gas.

40. National parks being such areas in a State as may, with the consent of the Government of that State, be designated by the National Assembly as national parks.

41. Nuclear energy.

42. Passports and visas.

43. Patents, trade marks, trade or business names, industrial designs and merchandise marks.

44. Pensions, gratuities and other-like benefit payable out of the Consolidated Revenue Fund or any other public funds of the Federation.

45. Police and other government security services established by law. (Ongoing efforts under Tinubu to move this to Concurrent List via constitutional amendment.)

46. Posts, telegraphs and telephones.

47. Powers of the National Assembly, and the privileges and immunities of its members.

48. Prisons — Removed (moved to Concurrent List as "Correctional Services" via 2023 amendment).

49. Professional occupations as may be designated by the National Assembly.

50. Public debt of the Federation.

51. Public holidays.

52. Public relations of the Federation.

53. Public service of the Federation including the settlement of disputes between the Federation and officers of such service.

54. Quarantine.

55. Railways — Removed (moved to Concurrent List via 2023 amendment).

56. Regulations of political parties.

57. Service and execution in a State of the civil and criminal processes, judgements, decrees, orders and other decisions of any court of law outside Nigeria or any court of law in Nigeria other than a court of law established by the House of Assembly of that State.

58. Stamp duties.

59. Taxation of incomes, profits and capital gains, except as otherwise prescribed by this Constitution.

60. The establishment and regulation of authorities for the Federation or any part thereof

(a) To promote and enforce the observance of the Fundamental Objectives and Directive Principles contained in this Constitution;

(b) To identify, collect, preserve or generally look after ancient and historical monuments and records and archaeological sites and remains declared by the National Assembly to be of national significance or national importance;

(c) to administer museums and libraries other than museums and libraries established by the Government of a state;

(d) To regulate tourist traffic; and (e) To prescribe minimum standards of education at all levels.

61. The formation, annulment and dissolution of marriages other than marriages under Islamic law and Customary law including matrimonial causes relating thereto.

62. Trade and commerce, and in particular

(a) trade and commerce between Nigeria and other countries including import of commodities into and export of commodities from Nigeria, and trade and commerce between the states;

(b) establishment of a purchasing authority with power to acquire for export or sale in world markets such agricultural produce as may be designated by the National Assembly;

(c) inspection of produce to be exported from Nigeria and the enforcement of grades and standards of quality in respect of produce so inspected;

(d) establishment of a body to prescribe and enforce standards of goods and commodities offered for sale;

(e) control of the prices of goods and commodities designated by the National Assembly as essential goods or commodities; and

(f) registration of business names.

63. Traffic on Federal trunk roads.

64. Water from such sources as may be declared by the National Assembly to be sources affecting more than one state.

65. Weights and measures.

66. Wireless, broadcasting and television other than broadcasting and television provided by the Government of a state; allocation of wave-lengths for wireless, broadcasting and television transmission.

67. Any other matter with respect to which the National Assembly has power to make laws in accordance with the provisions of this Constitution.

68. Any matter incidental or supplementary to any matter mentioned elsewhere in this list.

NOTE:
1. Prisons and Railways were moved to the Concurrent List in 2023, allowing states greater involvement.

2. Electricity powers for states were expanded (via amendment to the Concurrent List) to cover areas within the national grid.

3. Policing (item 45) is about to be moved to the concurrent.....

[Arnaud Bertrand @RnaudBertrand]

As someone who partially grew up among European elite kids like him, this reminds me just how incredibly hollow some of them are.

For a quick background, I went to one of the poshest high schools in France (Janson de Sailly, for those who know) and, afterwards, to what was at the time - and probably still is - the most expensive undergraduate school in Europe (EHL in Lausanne, Switzerland).

Needless to say, many of my classmates were from unbelievably privileged backgrounds. Just in my classroom in Lausanne I had the son of a (very famous) Russian oligarch, the son of Italy's largest real estate developer and the son of Spain's largest real estate developer (funnily, the latter two were flat mates).

Another classmate of mine came from the richest family in Naples, Italy and - while we were at school - his father (known in Naples under the nickname "Il Sultano") got arrested for having bribed half of Naples's city council - which, if you know Naples, ought to tell you something.

These were the kids I was doing group projects on business ethics with (literally) 😅

Anyhow, my story, and probably my luck, was that - before going to high school in Paris - I was raised in very normal public schools in the South of France where my friends were anything but wealthy. Their parents were farmers and everyday workers.

Which means - and I'd come to realize this was very important in life - that it was easy for me to understand how big a mistake it is to see money as identity and meaning - and to confuse someone's net worth with their actual worth.

What really struck me at the time was the contrast with my "poor" classmates of earlier in my life. They couldn't define themselves by what they had - by definition - and this forced them to reach deeper for their identity: their skills, knowledge, humor, etc.

Rich kids can skip that entire process, and the tragedy is that most of them do: they reach for the readymade identity that money provides. I remember being incredibly frustrated by many of my classmates, like "ok, I get it, your dad is rich and you own a lot of nice things but who are YOU, what else is there?" The answer, more often than not, was nothing.

To be fair, there were exceptions. One of my classmates I was most impressed by came from one of Zurich's wealthiest families (which, if you know Zurich, means insanely wealthy) yet he was almost OCD in not showing he had money: driving the shittiest car imaginable, living in a small studio, etc. He was very intellectual, very contrarian, and clearly at war with the idea that his family's wealth ought to define who he was.

I only discovered who he actually was when I started my first company and he approached me to invest: to discuss the investment I went to one of his family homes, which it turned out was a literal palatial castle on the shores of Geneva lake. The guy had decided to live in a small rundown studio when he literally had a castle sitting empty a 5-min drive away.

THAT I was impressed by: it's easy to see that money isn't meaning when you don't have any. To see it when you have more than almost anyone - when everyone around you is organized around the opposite assumption - is much harder. But to actually live it, to choose the studio when you have the castle keys in your pockets - with no audience to applaud you for that - that shows real depth.

At the end of the day, I think, the real distinction isn't between rich and poor but between people who exist from the inside out and people who exist from the outside in.

Wealth just happens to make it incredibly easy to be the latter, to skip the work of becoming someone and settle for a borrowed identity that glitters from the outside but is hollow all the way through. A Potemkin village identity.

This is actually a real societal issue, and magnified by social media (with idiotic posts like this one 👇): the more "outside in" folks out there, the less people with genuine internal anchors, the more fragile everything becomes.

When you think about it, everything that genuinely matters in a society is built by people who think for themselves: they take the world in, pass it through something genuinely their own, and give back something that didn't exist before: an idea, a conviction, a stand.

Every reform, every invention, every act of moral courage in history came from someone with an internal anchor strong enough to resist the current. Remove those people and all you have left is the current.

This isn't new, by the way. Most ancient traditions warn against exactly this, from the Bible (the golden calf story) to Confucius, who built his entire ethics around the distinction between the exemplary person (the Junzi, 君子) - oriented around internal cultivation and righteousness - and the petty person (Xiaoren, 小人), oriented around profit and gain. The junzi builds himself from the inside, the xiaoren chases what's outside.

So please, do not make the mistake of being impressed by wealthy people flaunting their wealth. Don't focus on the glitter, focus on the hollowness it's trying to hide.

[𝐌𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐜 - 𝐌𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐞 - 𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐌𝐨𝐫𝐞⭐️❤️ @NgocThach74]

123456789, the teacher who designed the formation is amazing; the movement is always minimal.

[Taiwo_Ajakaye @dmightyangel]

Instead of going for the Senate, State House of Assembly or any other position, I'll prefer to be a Local Government Chairman.......

ONE LGA.....
12 WARDS.....
CLEAR FUNCTIONS......
FAAC ALLOCATION.....

Turn just the LGA around for all to SEE how 12 WARDS in Nigeria can look exactly like anywhere in the World.....

Just SHOWCASE what is practicable in Nigeria, you will still enjoy the perks of the office na....

Funny enough, no one will ask HOW MUCH I spent as long as they see unprecedented results.

If is FAACable!

[Taiwo_Ajakaye @dmightyangel]

I will FORCE all of you to discuss and focus on LGA funds and development.....

No, I won't appear in your Studios to do so, but you see, the birds of the air will fly with these little little drops and drop them where you cannot ignore the conversations.

And YES, that's my agenda!

#Project774

[Taiwo_Ajakaye @dmightyangel]

MAIN/SHARED FUNCTIONS OF LOCAL GOVERNMENT AREAS.....

I simply checked online on what the Constitution of Nigeria calls the Primary functions of LGAs in Nigeria.

Going through the Primary functions of LGAs and Shared responsibilities with the State, it is obvious that if States and LGAs are not ready to lift a finger, there's little development we can see as a people.....If States & LGAs don't do them despite getting funds, who will? Unfortunately, the functions are so important to our day to day activities at the grassroots.

So I'll paste them here, no need to analyze them:

(a) Construction and maintenance of roads, streets, street lighting, drains and other public highways, parks, gardens, open spaces, or such other public facilities as may be prescribed by the State House of Assembly.

(b) Collection of rates, radio and television licences.😇😇

(c) Establishment and maintenance of cemeteries, burial grounds, and homes for the destitute or infirm.

(d) Establishment, maintenance, and regulation of slaughter houses, slaughter slabs, markets, motor parks, and public conveniences.

(e) Licensing of bicycles, trucks (other than mechanically propelled trucks), canoes, wheelbarrows, and carts.

(f) Consideration and making of recommendations to a State commission on economic planning (or similar body) on: The economic development of the State, especially as it affects the LGA's area.

(g) Naming of roads and streets and numbering of houses.

(h) Provision and maintenance of public conveniences, sewage, and refuse disposal.

(i) Registration of all births, deaths, and marriages.

(j) Assessment of privately owned houses or tenements for the purpose of levying such rates as may be prescribed by the State House of Assembly.

(k) Control and regulation of: (i) Outdoor advertising and hoarding.
(ii) Movement and keeping of pets of all descriptions.
(iii) Shops and kiosks.
(iv) Restaurants, bakeries, and other places for the sale of food to the public.
(v) Laundries.
(vi) The licensing, regulation, and control of the sale of liquor.

2. Concurrent/Participatory Functions: areas where LGAs participate with the State government:

(a) The provision and maintenance of primary, adult, and vocational education.

(b) The development of agriculture and natural resources (other than the exploitation of minerals).

(c) The provision and maintenance of health services.

(d) Such other functions as may be conferred on a local government council by the House of Assembly of the State.

#Project774

[NO CONTEXT HUMANS @HumansNoContext]

When the snow comes and you’re unemployed

[NO CONTEXT HUMANS @HumansNoContext]

Next time he’s going to learn how to use a stone

[NO CONTEXT HUMANS @HumansNoContext]

Archeologists in the future gonna think we're embalming feet

[Virality Clips @ViralityClips]

I couldn’t even control my own laughter

[NO CONTEXT HUMANS @HumansNoContext]

This will always be a classic

[Son of David @DrOlusesan]

RENTIER CAPITALISM
Our economy was never designed to allow a trickle down distribution of wealth even if $1 is made 50kobo and no president can undo this soon. In a rent taking economy, energy and capital are spent by manipulating the system rather than producing value.

Occupational Licensing is an example of rentier capitalism: NBA, NMA, ICAN, COREN, NURSING COUNCIL, CIPM etc. Govt don't take the fees and dues.

As a tomatoes farmer, you cannot sell your tomatoes directly at Mile 12. Some estate dues are 10 times higher than the taxes and land use charge we pay to govt. Landlords do their own, agents do their own. Digital platforms and tech monopoly are currently the biggest cartel and rent seekers!

Stock market is surging!
Money market is surging! Season of the rent seekers: middle class and middle men, sailing against prevailing favorable macroeconomic wind. Otedola and Dangote aren't the ones buying into apartments and shortlets boom. Its the middle class rent takers! This first revolution needed in Nigeria is a market revolution.

[R CoDav @rowtzar]

Organisation is very important. A properly planned system. https://t.co/ivbDJ9Eexq

[Adeniyi Adegoke @adeniyi_goke]

A man spent over ₦30,000,000 importing solar and inverter materials from China for his hotel because he believed foreign means better.

I warned him some of the materials didn’t look original, but he insisted.

After installation, the system failed. Till today, even after traveling to China himself, the system still isn’t working properly.

One painful lesson:
Never ignore trusted professionals around you because you think overseas automatically means quality.

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Just As He Is Now...

When you’re born again, you experience the kingdom of God now in this life; Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment, because as he is, so are we in this world (1 John 4:17).

When you read in the verse above, “…as he is, so are we in this world,” it’s not talking about us being like Jesus before He died, but the resurrected Jesus with eternal life.
We have the same life with Him now. The Bible says, “He that hath the Son hath life…” (1 John 5:12). If you have Jesus, you have eternal life—the God-life; it’s not the biological life with which you were born of your parents.

That’s why Jesus said, “…Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God” (John 3:3). And when He said your biological life can’t see the Kingdom of God, He wasn’t talking about just going to Heaven; He was talking about the reality of the Kingdom of God; the dominion of God in the world; the life and nature of God experienced in this world.

When you’re born again, you experience the kingdom of God now in this life; it becomes your everyday experience; your everyday walk. This is what Christianity is. Christ is literally alive in you; you’re inseparably one with Him. 1 Corinthians 6:17 says, “But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.”
Having become so mingled with the Lord in one spirit, how could you be bothered about viruses, bacteria, germs or anything that ravages the world? This is why John wants you to know what you have. He says, “These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life…” (1 John 5:13).

When you understand who you are in Christ, you’d realise it’s impossible for you to be sick. Once you recognise and become conscious of your life in Him, you have nothing to fear in this world, because you’re indestructible. What a life He’s given us! Hallelujah!
ecomes your everyday experience; your everyday walk. This is what Christianity is. Christ is literally alive in you; you’re inseparably one with Him. 1 Corinthians 6:17 says, “But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.”
Having become so mingled with the Lord in one spirit, how could you be bothered about viruses, bacteria, germs or anything that ravages the world? This is why John wants you to know what you have. He says, “These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life…” (1 John 5:13).

When you understand who you are in Christ, you’d realise it’s impossible for you to be sick. Once you recognise and become conscious of your life in Him, you have nothing to fear in this world, because you’re indestructible. What a life He’s given us! Hallelujah!

…For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said: I will dwell in them And walk among them. I will be their God, And they shall be My people (2 Corinthians 6:16 NKJV). The real essence of Christianity is the fact that Christ literally lives in you by the Holy Spirit.

That’s the reason Jesus came, to make fellowship and oneness with God possible. Through that fellowship, we were given eternal life—the life and nature of God. Therefore, you’re by no means an ordinary person. You’re full of God; full of His love, His grace, and His wisdom.

This has to become a reality in your spirit; otherwise, you won’t be living the true Christian life. You have to be Christ-in-me conscious. I’m referring to a consciousness about life where all you know is Christ; everything you see is Christ. The Bible says Christ is your life (Colossians 3:4). Christ is everything. Functioning with this mindset will literally transport you to the realm where you have no consciousness of need, failure or fear; you’re on top and in victory every day, every hour, every minute and every second, because you carry God in you! You and God are the eternal winning team.

But because many aren’t “Christ-in-me” minded, they struggle through life, “looking” for God; “going” to Him, and reaching out to Him for help. Whereas, the Bible says, “Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world” (1 John 4:4).

Everything and anything you could ever need is inside the greater One that lives in you. What you need is to become conscious of His indwelling presence and the wisdom He pilots you with for success and greatness.

Don’t ask Him for wisdom; He’s your wisdom (1 Corinthians 1:30). Don’t ask Him for help; He’s your Help and your Helper. Don’t ask Him for strength; He’s your strength.

Don’t go anywhere without the consciousness that you’re a God-carrying vessel. You’ll be amazed at the sudden transformation: the grace, divine aura, influence and power that you’ll exude. Why? In the spiritual realm, the first principle is knowledge; the second is consciousness, and the third is speaking; voicing. That’s the reason this knowledge is coming to you today, for you to have the consciousness that you carry God in you, and then declare accordingly.

[Tevin Macharia Mukabana @TevinMacharia]

There was a season in my life when things were not right…

Battles I couldn’t explain.
A heaviness that didn’t make sense physically, but I could feel it spiritually.

And during that season, I began to notice a pattern…

My dreams.

I would constantly see myself back in the village…
Back in my former school…
Places connected to my past.

Sometimes the dreams didn’t even make sense.
They were strange… confusing… even disturbing.

There were nights I would dream of snakes.

And deep within me, I knew…
This was not ordinary.

I understood what those dreams represented.
I knew they were not random.

There are certain patterns you don’t ignore.
There are certain signals in the spirit that require a response.

And I knew I had to break free from whatever was trying to keep me bound.

Then I received an instruction:

Pray with Psalms 91.

Not casually.
Not once in a while.

But consistently.

So I made a decision that changed everything.

For 21 days straight, I showed up at midnight and prayed with Psalms 91.

Every single night.

No excuses.
No breaks.

Midnight after midnight, I would declare:

“He that dwelleth in the secret place of the Most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty…”

At first, it just felt like words.

Some nights I was exhausted.
Some nights sleep was heavy on my eyes.
Some nights my mind was all over the place.

And if I’m being honest…
There were nights I wondered if anything was really changing.

But I refused to stop.

Because I had made up my mind:
I was not going to live under any form of spiritual oppression.

I was not going to ignore what I had seen.

I was going to confront it — with the Word of God.

Day 5… I kept praying.
Day 10… still showing up.
Day 15… something started shifting.

The dreams began to reduce.
The fear started losing its grip.
The heaviness was no longer as strong.

And something else began to happen…

Peace.

Unexplainable peace.

Clarity returned.
Strength came back.
My spirit felt lighter.

And by the time I got to day 21…

I knew.

Something had broken.

Those patterns were no longer the same.
That oppression had lifted.

I received my deliverance.

Not through noise.
Not through a crowd.

But through consistent, disciplined, scripture-based prayer.

I didn’t just read Psalms 91…

I entered into it.

I dwelt in it.

I made God my refuge — not just by confession, but by staying in His presence night after night.

Let me tell you something:

Deliverance is not always dramatic.
Sometimes it is enforced.

Enforced through consistency.
Enforced through obedience.
Enforced through refusing to give up, even when you don’t feel anything.

Midnight prayers are not just a routine…

They are strategic.

There is a depth you access at midnight.
There is a focus that comes when everything else is quiet.

And when you combine that with scripture…

You are not just praying —
You are establishing authority.

If you are going through a strange season…
If you are noticing patterns that don’t sit right with your spirit…
If you are tired of cycles that keep repeating…

Don’t ignore it.

Respond.

Take a scripture.
Stand on it.
Pray it.
Declare it.

And stay there.

Even when it’s hard.
Even when it feels like nothing is happening.

Because something is happening.

Silently.
Deeply.
Powerfully.

God honors consistency.

And there is a dimension of deliverance you will never encounter until you learn to stay in the secret place.

Stay in the Word.
Stay in prayer.
Stay with God.

Until what is written becomes your reality.

I am a witness.

There is power in praying scriptures.
There is authority in consistency.
And there is real deliverance for the one who refuses to give up in the place of prayer.

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

There’s a particular type of woman dominating the urban landscape today.

She has checked every box on the success list. She provides for herself, protects herself, and leads herself. On paper, she’s a triumph of modern ideology.

In reality, she has become a Proxy Man.

A Proxy Man is a woman who suppressed her full range to survive a system that only rewarded half of it. She has adopted every trait of a high-achieving, competitive male — focus, stoicism, and a singular drive for resource acquisition.

“She cut off the parts of herself that were ‘too soft’ for the boardroom — and discovered later that those were the same parts that knew how to be loved.”

This isn’t observation. High-achieving women have described it themselves.

Arianna Huffington, after her 2007 collapse from exhaustion, wrote in Thrive that she had confused achievement with living — that she had built an empire and lost access to herself. She described the floor of her office, where she regained consciousness, as the moment her definition of success broke permanently.

Sheryl Sandberg’s central thesis in Lean In describes a state of permanent battle-readiness that leaves women performing competently even in the absence of threat, treating every room as a negotiation and every interaction as an audition.

These are not weak women. These are women who won — and still described feeling hollowed out by the cost of winning.
When a woman operates within the masculine frame, she creates a vacuum in her life.

Studies on long-term partnership stability consistently identify emotional differentiation — the ability of partners to occupy distinct psychological and functional roles — as one of the strongest predictors of relational longevity. Attachment research consistently finds that long-term intimacy depends on difference, not similarity. Two people who occupy the same psychological role don’t complete each other. They crowd each other.
If a woman is already occupying the masculine space in a relationship — being the provider and the decider — there’s no room for a man to enter.

We’ve told women they don’t need a husband. But we’ve secretly replaced him with an institution.
The corporation provides the health insurance. The side business provides the protection. The salary provides the provision. You haven’t escaped a power structure — you’ve just changed which one owns your hours.

For many women, the Proxy Man wasn’t a manifesto. It was a survival response.

In an economy where a single income can no longer anchor a home. In a dating landscape where men are expected equal burden but offered unequal ground. In a world where depending on a man carried documented financial and personal risk, the Proxy Man was often a rational adaptation to an irrational set of options.
She didn’t abandon love. She decided that exposure without reliable ground wasn’t love — it was risk with worse odds.
She cancels the family holiday to do an extra bit of work
She checks her work email during her own birthday dinner — not because she wants to, but because the machine has trained her that availability is survival. She’s never fully anywhere.
The institution has colonized her attention.
She has become a part-time inhabitant of everywhere she goes.

Acute stress influences decision-making differently in men and women, with women showing significantly greater emotional and physiological residue from stress exposure.
Peer-reviewed studies on oxytocin-testosterone antagonism have consistently shown that sustained high-cortisol, high-testosterone environments suppress the neurological systems most associated with relational bonding and empathy in women.

When women are locked in high-stress competition mode, their capacity for relational empathy drops. Biology is not a metaphor.

A woman who says “I don’t need a man” is technically correct. She can pay her own bills.
But “need” is a shallow word.
Any animal can survive alone.
Relinquishing survival mode — that takes something the self-help industry has no product for.”

Here is the objection.
The real problem isn’t women; it’s a society that never built structures to support them. Better childcare. Equal pay. Men who show up. If those systems existed, the Proxy Man wouldn’t have to.
That objection is correct — and insufficient.
Structural change takes decades. Her cortisol doesn’t care. The argument here is not that women should accept a broken system. It’s that they should stop paying for it with their bodies while waiting for it to change.

Don’t mistake softness for weakness.

True elite status is the capacity to lead a company during the day and choose to be led by your partner at night. It’s the mastery of your own internal gears — a skill that the most powerful women I know have had to fight to reclaim.
If you only have one gear — Attack — you aren’t powerful. You’re broken.
The breaking happens quietly. It shows up in the way she responds to tenderness with suspicion. In the way a compliment lands like a negotiating tactic. In the way she flinches at softness — her own and anyone else’s — because softness was the first thing the machine asked her to give up. Reclaiming the full range isn’t a weekend retreat. It is a slow excavation of the woman she suspended to survive.
Part of her is proud of what she’s built. Another part is quietly exhausted that she had to become this version of herself to build it.

[R CoDav @rowtzar]

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