This is free advice from an expensive psychologist. If you’re an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don’t make everything a matter of life and death.
I finally understand what Machiavelli meant when he said, “Never play fair in a game where others cheat.” It doesn’t mean become evil. It means stop being naive. Stop bringing honesty to people who study manipulation, stop giving access to people who weaponize closeness, and stop expecting clean hands from people who already showed you they’ll throw dirt. Sometimes wisdom is not revenge. Sometimes wisdom is learning the rules of the room before the room uses your goodness against you.
Swap the phones for newspapers and this is a subway photo from 1920.
A sociologist named Erving Goffman described exactly this in 1963. He called it civil inattention: the learned habit of acknowledging that a stranger exists, then pulling your attention back so you don't intrude on them. A quick glance, then you look away. In a space packed with people you will never see again, looking away is the courtesy.
It's the quiet contract that lets a few hundred strangers share a tight platform without friction. You signal "I see you, you're no threat, I won't bother you." Phones slotted neatly into that ritual. They are the most convincing prop anyone has ever had for performing it.
The newspaper did the same job for a century. Subway photos from the 1920s through the 1970s show entire rows of riders vanished behind broadsheets, every face covered, nobody speaking. Radio got blamed for ending conversation. So did the Walkman. So did the cheap paperback before either of them. Each new object inherited the same eulogy: this is the thing that finally isolated us.
Connection on a subway platform was always rare. Strangers waiting for a train kept to themselves long before anyone had a screen to disappear into. The phone's real footprint is at the dinner table and in the living room, the places where idle attention used to have nowhere to go and now always does.
The behavior in this photo is a hundred years old. The object in everyone's hands is the only part that keeps getting replaced.
@nabunturanguy They must have meant “sponsors” and not donors since it is Confirmation day. Each confirmand has a Confirmation sponsor. This is Confirmation season in Australia and the USA.
The problem here was how he answered the question. He kept saying "I can't say for certain who gave the orders" or "I can't say today at least" or "many personalities involved" and "I can't say for certain what the chain of command is...?"
If he meant he cannot disclose that information, he should have said "I can't disclose that for now." Or "That's classified information for now."
He sounded like he doesn't know the basic facts of government. The NBI is attached to the DOJ, and the DOJ is under the control of the executive. So it's either the President, the SOJ or the NBI Director himself who issued the order. That is also the chain of command. He's a lawyer and he's taken up admin law, he should know that.
Between the spox and Karen, it is the spox who should always be held at a higher standard because he is a public officer and public office is a public trust. Skills-wise, qualifications-wise, and transparency-wise, he needs to meet the constitutional standard of public trust. He failed both the public and his higher-ups in this interview because of his failure to prepare.