âSister Debbie, how do I know who to marry?â
I canât tell you the number of times I get this message
I want to share something with you and it may get a bit gory so please brace yourself
I got pregnant immediately after our wedding and when I was 6 months pregnant, my water broke prematurely and I had to be admitted.
You know this story already.
What you donât know is the behind the scenes
It was not funny. I was leaking amniotic fluid day in and day out. At times it was dripping at times it was gushing.
My husband and I were the only ones facing something we both have never faced. Our marriage was just 6 months old.
Because of the severity of what was happening, we had to be super careful and manage my movements so the water does not leak too much and so that the amniotic fluid is still enough to carry my baby till at least 35 weeks
I looked so horrible because I couldnât bathe for days at a time.
If you saw my hair? You would just run. Because I couldnât afford any movement so grooming was a luxury I could not afford.
There were times out of nowhere I would just start bleeding
There were times I could not do ânumber twoâ. Because apparently being stationary does not allow you have good bowel movements.
One day it got so bad I thought I would die. My husband was in the toilet with me as I was trying to do this and it was not working. This man was ready to help bring this thing out if possible.
I told you it was gory.
Yet there was not day my husband did not look at me like was the prettiest woman in the world.
Every he had to still work.
He would cook and bring to the hospital every single day, go to work, cook and bring again, and sleep on the hard chair beside my bed
We did this for 3 months.
Now let me answer this question:
Marry someone that can do hard things with you and for you.
Marry someone that thinks youâre beautiful even when your hair is not combed and your mouth is not brushed yet.
Marry someone that when hard times show up, they roll up their sleeeves and say âwhat can I doâ?
Life is hard. And even though we donât pray for it the truth is that sometimes storms show up.
Marry a partner who is good in the storm. Who is emotionally stable enough to brace storms.
Who wonât say he went to sleep with another woman because you were pregnant or youâre healing from postpartum wounds
Anybody can love you when you have on a pretty dress and smell like daffodils dipped in chocolate vanilla
Only a âhusbandâ can love you even on days when bathing brushing are luxuries you canât afford
Blessings!
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@wemimospot Wow, congratulations
God keep and preserve your baby girl, causing her to grow in his beauty and strength daily and give you all what is required to bring her up in His light. She shall be a blessing indeed from God the father to you
RAISING YOUR CHILDREN INTENTIONALLY IN THE UNITED KINGDOM
I have lived in the UK long enough to give informed advice on how to raise children. I have seen them in church, in society and in the criminal justice system as a lawyer. I have raised three adult children in the system. I have seen my dear wife work with children for the last 30 years and she ended up with a degree in Early Childhood Studies.
Raise your children well from their early years. There will not be a magical transformation in their growth. There will hardly be a sudden transformation in their development. Whatever you donât like in their life, you should change as a responsible parent. Children will become a bigger picture of who they currently are. Be particular about their choice of friends. Pay attention to their characters and attitude. Discourage laziness. Instil confidence in them. Tell them they are not inferior. I tell my children and church members regularly.
If you cannot control their association because of the environment that you live in, please change accommodation. Change schools if they keep getting in trouble or you are seeing dangerous traits. We had to move from a particular borough when we saw some bad characters around. One of the boys then had 5 children by the age of 23 and he was not working.
My GP of 32 years is an Asian. He is like a father to me. When my children were very young, he said if I have two houses, I should sell one to put them in private schools to penetrate this society. He said alternatively, I should do everything to get them into grammar schools. I did not understand him then but I do now.
Whilst many African children are becoming TikTok and Instagram nuisances, the Asians are raising their children well, pushing them into private schools, grammar schools and top universities. They are also not letting go of their culture. Their children understand and speak their language. It is my fellow Nigerians that even their children living in Nigeria do not understand their language. We love everything foreign. Sophisticated madness!
Most Asian children in the UK become âlawyers, accountants, doctorsâ etc before their graduation. How? They work in settings either founded by their parents or relatives whilst still studying. Africans should start setting things up rather than letting our children get work experience in casinos, Tesco or Lidl. Most of their children come out of university with good grades and no debt. Some African children come out with poor grades as they had to work whilst studying to foot some bills. They come out of university with debts they pay for years.
Finally, get involved in your childrenâs choices of career. Advise them. Counsel them. Donât make an irresponsible statement that as long as they enjoy it. What they enjoy may not benefit them and can make them âslavesâ in the UK system for years. I see a lot of depressed young black people who were frustrated by the system being led by those they were far better than.
They give them jobs and pay them salaries. They systematically abuse them, suppress them and psychologically make them believe they are second-class citizens. Eventually, they get rid of them or they resign out of frustration.
I have so much to tell you but my wife just called me. See you later.
Dele Olawanle is my name. I write and speak to make lives better.
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